THREE THINGS I DONT UNDERSTAND:
1. How I put pairs of socks into the washing machine and inevitably when I take the load of laundry out, I am missing socks. I do not get that.
2. Getting pleasure out of being cruel.
3. Why Renee Zellweger is successful
THREE THINGS ON MY DESK:
1. Old-fashioned wine-bottle-holder from a ship.
2. Photo of Cashel (the castle AND the nephew)
3. A small box of what is known as healing cards. Cards you pick at random – they usually have a small verse of poetry on it, or an inspirational quote – as well as a beautiful watercolor of some kind. These are next to my small container of angel cards. It’s good to have that stuff nearby.
THREE THINGS IM DOING RIGHT NOW:
1. uh … writing this?
3. blinking my eyes occasionally
THREE THINGS I WANT TO DO BEFORE I DIE:
1. Go to Central Asia
2. Publish a book
3. Have a child
THREE THINGS I CAN DO:
1. Be loyal.
2. Love someone with all my heart.
3. Recite all of the words to “Quite a lotta” from Barnum at top-speed. This is usually done with my sister Jean at random family gatherings. I don’t think everyone else finds it as amusing as we do.
THREE WAYS TO DESCRIBE MY PERSONALITY:
2. A good friend, a good listener
THREE THINGS I CANT DO:
1. Turn love into hate. If I love you once, I can’t just say, “Oh, I hate you now” once the break-up happens. I have hated this about myself, I yearned for hatred, but now I see it’s a good thing. I’ve got a lot of great old flames in my life still. It’s cool.
2. Do simple sums without talking out loud and saying things like, “Carry the one … okay … now 8 minus 7 is one …” etc. I can’t do simple math problems in my head.
3. See without my glasses or my contact lenses
THREE THINGS I THINK YOU SHOULD LISTEN TO:
1. Tracy Bonham. She has a new album out – I just bought it – she’s just great.
2. Lenny Kravitz. I have all his albums. And frankly, so should you.
3. The soundtrack to Ragtime. Amazing.
THREE THINGS I DONT THINK YOU SHOULD LISTEN TO EVER:
1. Anyone who has a kneejerk “been there, done that” attitude about the experiences you have in your life. If you come to someone and say, excitedly, “I just found a new apartment!” and their first response is, “Oh, please, wait til you’ve moved 20 times … see how excited you are then” – not only do I think you should not listen to that person, but I think you should cut them loose. I can’t STAND the “been there, done that” attitude. It is there to stand in judgment of excitement and enthusiasm. I’ve experienced it in comments on this blog too, on occasion. Because I love to write about things with excitement, passion, going over the moon with my emotions … some dipshit always comes along and makes a snark. I think my excitement makes them uncomfortable. You know that type? Is it fun to be like that? Is it fun to puncture someone else’s balloon? Well if it is: then buh-bye. I do not want you in my life. “Been there, done that” is there to rain on your parade. People who compulsively do this SUCK. They are a blight upon this planet.
2. Homophobic comments.
3. Michael Bolton
THREE THINGS YOU SAY:
1. No. Way.
3. Get out of here!!!
THREE THINGS YOUD LIKE TO LEARN:
1. Irish dancing
3. Figure skating at the Olympic level
THREE BEVERAGES YOU DRINK REGULARLY:
2. Orange juice
3. Ginger ale
THREE SHOWS YOU WATCHED WHEN YOU WERE A KID:
1. Little House on the Prairie
2. 3-2-1 Contact
3. Land of the Lost
THREE THINGS YOU WISH PEOPLE WOULD LEARN TO DO:
1. Just LISTEN when someone else is speaking. Don’t sit there planning out your rebuttal, don’t sit there JUDGING every word coming out, don’t listen with the checklist (“Yup – I agree with that … Oh, don’t agree with that … Yup, agree with that one …”) It’s so selfish. You have no idea about the art of conversation. You’re a big fat blowhard BORE. Just LISTEN. Sheesh.
2. Say, “You know what? I messed up here. I’m really sorry.”
3. Keep your mouth shut when you feel like giving unasked-for advice. Learn that sometimes people just need to talk, and share … and nobody’s saying, “Please … give me unsolicited advice.” Have the sensitivity to understand when your precious words of wisdom are wanted, and when they are not. And if you mess up in that regard? Fucking apologize. Mkay? Sometimes a friend just needs to share her thoughts, feelings, experience … she’s not saying, “Please fix this. Please!!” This is obviously connected to #1 in this particular topic. Just shut up and LISTEN. It’s also connected to the nastiness of the “been there/done that” attitude. Oh – so because YOU’VE done it means nobody else gets to have the experience for the first time? Shut up.
Ahhh, that was very cathartic.
(via Princess Dominique)