{"id":7340,"date":"2007-12-07T09:45:52","date_gmt":"2007-12-07T14:45:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/?p=7340"},"modified":"2010-07-18T14:49:50","modified_gmt":"2010-07-18T18:49:50","slug":"shy-but-not-really","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/?p=7340","title":{"rendered":"Shy … But Not Really"},"content":{"rendered":"

I can be quite shy. (Cue Carrie’s spit-take in Belfast. I said it to her, completely seriously, when we were visiting her – I said, “To be honest, I’m really quite shy …” and she laughed IN MY FACE. hahahaha) No, but seriously. I can be very shy. It takes me a while to warm up, socially. Since I have been blogging, however, I have found a comfort zone with meeting new people – I don’t know, maybe it’s because I feel “public” now. People read me. People show up and read and comment. They email me. I’ve met many bloggers – people I now consider dear friends. And there was no warm-up period with these people. We just got right to it. There are those I have still not met (yes, I’m looking at YOU, Lisa<\/a>, I’m looking at YOU, Tracey<\/a>) whom I feel like … once we do meet, we’ll just cut to the chase. We’re already friends … know what I mean? It’s wonderful. And so far – meeting folks I’ve befriended on the Internet – has been only a joy. I haven’t been “duped” once. I also haven’t met someone in this context where I think: “Hmm. They are NOTHING like their writing.” When I met Emily for the first time, I recognized her immediately. Not just her face – but her whole personality. She was the same as her writing.<\/p>\n

All of this is to say that yesterday I finally met Matt Zoller Seitz<\/a> – he invited me to a screening of There Will Be Blood<\/i> – the movie is 3 hours long, and it was a press screening, so – you know – it was pretty plush, man. THAT’S the way to see a movie. And then we went out to a diner and had some coffee and some lunch – and talked like maniacs. Again, you can cut to the chase, because you already KNOW them (not really – but you know what you need to know in order to just launch into a monologue at them … They read you, you read them … you have a basis to begin.) We talked about writing – I asked him about editing, how he edits … we talked about Burt Lancaster and Jack Black and Hitchcock and his site – and mine (Matt: “You seem to have a good group of commenters.” Me: “Yeah, well I delete a lot of comments.” Matt burst into laughter. hahahaha Yup. I’m a dictator.) – we also, of course, talked a lot about the movie we had just seen, and Paul Thomas Anderson’s work, in general. I’ll write more about the film when I get my thoughts together, when I find my “way in” – as I told Matt.<\/p>\n

Anyway, I guess I need to re-think that whole “I’m shy” thing. In some cases I’m shy. I’m not good at small talk. I bore easily. I also have a hard time NOT saying what I think, even if it might be awkward or not the right time\/place. This can make for some bizarre moments, and this is why “dating” for me has never really worked. You need to have SOME tolerance for small talk!! But when I have met the people I have already gotten to know online … there’s no need for small talk. There is a basis for connection already. You can just get right to it.<\/p>\n

It’s totally cool.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I can be quite shy. (Cue Carrie’s spit-take in Belfast. I said it to her, completely seriously, when we were visiting her – I said, “To be honest, I’m really quite shy …” and she laughed IN MY FACE. hahahaha) … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[3],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7340"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7340"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7340\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22935,"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7340\/revisions\/22935"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7340"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7340"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sheilaomalley.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7340"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}