May 17, 2004

A beautiful post... a must-read

for anyone, gay or straight - although the post is directed to the gays and lesbians about to be married in Massachusetts .

It is excellent and amusing advice on getting and being married.

If I ever get married someday, I should probably print these instructions out for safe-keeping.

Some snippets are strictly practical:

Before the ceremony, pee early and often. I know. But look, you want to be up there with a full bladder? You'll be nervous enough.

While others have more depth:

There will not be nearly enough time at the reception to spend all the time you want with all the people you want to. They'll understand and will be happy for the time you can spare them.

I particularly like these two:

There will be drama of some sort at the reception. If the wedding party lets any of it reach the newlyweds, they haven't done their job.

And lastly, the best one of all:

Some people don't think you should invite your exes to the wedding. But I think it's not such a bad thing to have one person in the crowd slightly depressed that they let you get away. They'll get over it at the reception. Trust me.

It is a heartfelt post of welcome to gays getting married. Well done. Got me all emotional.

(via Dispatches from Culture Wars)

Posted by sheila

Gorgeous, and absolutely true, Sheila. I've been married now for 8 years, and happier every single day we're together. Now if we could just be treated like every other American, and do it in a church with the same rights other people have. This is what I call TRUE shock and awe.

Posted by: Alex at May 18, 2004 09:57 AM

James Joyce couldn't have said it better, Bella. :)

Posted by: red at May 18, 2004 09:59 AM