Daily Book Excerpt: Biography
Next biography on the biography shelf is Built of Books: How Reading Defined the Life of Oscar Wilde, by Thomas Wright
It is only shallow people who do not judge by appearances. The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible.
— Oscar Wilde
This book has a story behind it. On September 25, 2008, I read a review of a new biography of Oscar Wilde, by Thomas Wright, called Oscar’s Books and wrote a feverishly excited piece about it and how excited I was to read it. The date is important although I rarely write personally on my blog. (It seems like I do, but it’s pretty much all trompe l’oeil. Important events occur, life-changing events, that are never mentioned here. It’s that way by design.) My father was very ill at that time (and had been for over a year – he got the diagnosis in early 2007). He would die on January 2, 2009. I never wrote about it here. (Although I did here. I felt safer there.) My sister got married on September 20, 2008 – 5 days before I wrote that Oscar piece, and my father – who had had his arm amputated only a couple of days before her wedding, got out of the hospital for one day to walk her down the aisle. It was a day of burning burning light, a day anyone who was there feels blessed to have witnessed. (Classic moment: Cousin Mike flew in from Los Angeles on a red eye to come to the wedding. He flew in to Logan, rented a car, drove down to Rhode Island, attended the wedding and reception, then drove back to Boston to fly back out the following early morning. He talked to my dad a bit before the wedding ceremony. My dad, who had just had his arm amputated days before and was still supposed to be in the hospital, said to my cousin Mike approvingly, “You always make such an effort.” Meaning: if he can, Mike will come to everything. Later, Mike said to me, “I’m lookin’ at the guy, in his suit, with his amputation, he’s been driven down from the hospital, and I’m thinking – I make an effort? I do, Uncle Bill???”) If he hadn’t chose to get his arm amputated, he would have died on September 12, 13. But the amputation still wouldn’t save his life, ultimately – he knew that going into it. The man was heroic. He walked my sister down the aisle. I am convinced that is why he chose to have the amputation. I have never written about any of this.
One of my father’s deepest bonds with his family was our shared love of books.
He was a scholar, book collector, and encyclopedic in his knowledge of literature – mainly Irish literature, his specialty – but literature, in general. When I read the review of Thomas Wright’s book, Oscar’s Books, I was in a FEVER to get my hands on it, and FAST, because it sounded like just the book that I could talk about with my father. Oscar Wilde? Irish? Genius writer? Someone my father knew and loved intimately? Plus a book devoted entirely to Oscar Wilde’s library, and his marginalia, and the books he read? I needed to have it. NOW. But it was being published in England first (it had a change of title once it was published in the States much later), and although I put it on pre-order, I still had a doomed sense that I wouldn’t get it in time. That entire fall was a waiting game. We sat at my parents’ house and kept vigil.
If you go to that original post I wrote and scroll down the comments you will see that the author himself, Thomas Wright, showed up on October 12, 2008, and left a beautiful comment, offering to send me a copy. I emailed him immediately, so excited, and said, Yes, please (not telling him why I needed it so urgently). I think I gave my parents’ address since I was basically living at home by that point. Again, I didn’t write about any of this on the site. But I figured I would honor it now. I did not hear back from Thomas Wright. The autumn passed. I forgot about the book. I forgot about everything except what was going on in my family. My father began to move off to where he needed to go. I was writing my first book at that time, and was obsessed with finishing it before my dad passed. I at least wanted him to know it was finished. By the time I finished the manuscript, he could no longer read, but he was able to hold the manuscript in his hand. This is too painful for me to write about.
Suddenly, in mid-December, 2008, a package arrived at my parents’ house for me. I didn’t recognize the return address or anything about it, but I opened it, and there was a brand-new copy of Oscar’s Books, with a note from the author inside. He hadn’t emailed me to say the book was on the way. But he had followed through. It was so incredible to me that in this dismaying world of broken promises and cruelty, a total stranger could be so kind and full of integrity. (I was being harassed by a couple of crackpot hate mailers at that time because my site was intermittently updated and purposefully opaque – a couple of persistent crazy people started sending me emails about how ugly I was, how dramatic, no wonder I was single, etc. – they had no idea what was happening with me at that time, but they despised that there was a mystery about what was going on in my real life, something I alluded to but did not elaborate upon on the site, and they let me know repeatedly what they felt about me. I never responded or anything like that, but during that fall and following winter, after my dad passed, when I was in the first flush of grieving, I was getting hate mail on a regular basis. There is evil on this planet, I call it by its true name.) I hadn’t given Thomas Wright or his book one moment of thought since October when I emailed him saying I’d love a copy. I just had too much else going on. But quietly, on the other end of that communication, Thomas Wright kept his word. Had the publisher send me the book. Took the time to sign it. I was deeply moved. On so many levels. When I opened the book, I felt like my whole head was on fire.
The book wasn’t for me. It was for my dad. It had arrived too late for him to look at it, read it, or anything. But I sat with him and told him the whole story, about the review, and Oscar’s books, and Thomas Wright, and I showed him the marbled paper that made up the end pages. Maybe it’s wrong to say it came too late. If it had arrived on January 3, 2009, I would have had a very different response to its arrival. I wouldn’t have cared about it at all. I probably wouldn’t have even noticed it, it would have been a symbol of things happening “too late”. But in mid-December, it meant EVERYTHING. Dad was still here when it showed up on the doorstep.
I never told Thomas Wright any of this, although I did consider sending him an email filling him in. But then that seemed a bit insane, so I didn’t.
Who knows, maybe he will come across this post some day and know how much his integrity meant to me at that fragile time. To quote my favorite line in all of Shakespeare, and I can say that with certainty:
How far that little candle throws his beams!
So shines a good deed in a naughty world.
I finally read the book during my lonely beautiful sojourn out on Block Island in January of 2010. I had asked my mother what I should do with the book. Did she want it? It was really Dad’s. And she said no, no, it was mine, mine and Dad’s, I should keep it.
I read it, and it’s a beautiful little volume, but that’s really all I want to say about it.
That’s enough writing for today.
Excerpt from Built of Books: How Reading Defined the Life of Oscar Wilde, by Thomas Wright
It was during Michaelmas term of 1874 that Wilde first opened Studies in the History of the Renaissance, a collection of art essays penned by the Oxford Classics don Walter Pater in 1873. Wilde’s beautiful first edition of the book had an unusual green cloth binding and was printed in generously spaced type on ‘mock-ribbed’ paper, which gives a pleasant tingling sensation as you move your fingers over it.
The volume contains essays on philosophers, poets and artists of the Renaissance such as Leonardo, Botticelli and Michelangelo. Pater’s relationship to the past is personal and passionate. Through years spent adoring and, as it were, living with, the artworks and writings of the period, he absorbed its spirit. This enabled him to divine, by instinct, much about the Renaissance that was inaccessible to more scrupulous scholars.
Pater enters into a work of art imaginatively, elucidating, in a series of baroque prose poems, the impression it makes on him, and defining its special character. He calls this the ‘true truth’ about an artwork, next to which the facts concerning its production and history are insignificant. After gazing long and lovingly at the mysterious face of the Mona Lisa, set against the dreamy green landscape of water and stone, he writes, as if in a trance, ‘The presence that rose thus so strangely beside the waters, is expressive of what in the ways of a thousand years men had come to desire. Hers is the head upon which “the ends of the world are come”, and the eyelids are a little weary . . . She is older than the rocks among which she sits; like the vampire, she has been dead many times, and learned the secrets of the grave . . . and all this has been to her but as the sound of lyres and flutes . . . ‘
Wilde hailed this passage as the quintessential piece of ‘creative criticism’. Its unashamed subjectivity and its ornate, impressionistic style were, to him, causes for celebration. Pater had deepened the mystery of the painting by enriching it with a new interpretation, and his criticism could itself stand as an independent work of art. ‘Who . . . cares,’ he wrote, ‘whether Mr Pater has put into the portrait of the Mona Lisa something that Leonardo never dreamed of?’
When Pater contemplates a work of art from a more objective viewpoint he focuses, almost exclusively, on its stylistic attributes, rather than on its ‘meaning’ or ‘message’. A work’s style should, he argues, so perfectly embody the artist’s ‘ideas’ and ‘intentions’ as to be indistinguishable from them. All arts thus aspire to the condition of music, because in music form and content are inseparable.
Pater suggests that art does not appeal primarily to the intellect, but rather to that instinct for form, beauty and harmony which might be called the aesthetic sense. Those endowed with this sense engage with art in an imaginative, emotional, and even physical fashion. In the conclusion to the Renaissance Pater describes the ‘aesthetic’ experience as overwhelming. Art affords us the opportunity of ecstasy, he says, coming to us without an intellectual programme or a moral purpose and ‘proposing frankly to give nothing but the highest quality to [our] moments as they pass, and simply for those moments’ sake’. It offers the possibility of heightened pleasure, placing us ‘at the focus where the greatest number of [life’s] vital forces unite in their purest energy’. The aim of existence is the enjoyment and multiplication of such intense experiences. ‘To burn always,’ as Pater put it, ‘with this hard, gemlike flame, to maintain this ecstasy is success in life.’
Pater’s conclusion signalled his allegiance to the Aesthetic movement, a loose affiliation of artists, intellectuals and critics of various cultures, linked by their adherence to several key doctrines regarding art. They believed that the style of an artwork is more important than its content, and that formal beauty is paramount. They also held that the creation of beauty is the common aim of all the arts, and that art is entirely separate from the ‘real’ world.
The origins of Aestheticism lay in the writings of Kant, who defined art as ‘purposiveness without purpose’, and as something entirely separate from the spheres of morality and action. His ideas were refined and elaborated in the mid-nineteenth century by French authors such as Charles Baudelaire and Theophile Gautier. In the celebrated preface to his novel Mademoiselle de Maupin, Gautier declared that all art is quite useless.
Swinburne introduced English readers to these French theories. Art’s business, he declared, ‘is not to do good on [moral] grounds, but to do good on her own . . . Art for Art’s sake first of all.’ ‘Rien n’est vrai que le beau [nothing is true except the beautiful],’ he argued. ‘La beaute est parfaite [Beauty is perfect].’ Swinburne, along with Rossetti, attempted to realise the aesthetic ideal in poetry that aimed at formal perfection and offered the reader little in the way of a message or a moral.
Wilde had been introduced to Kant’s aesthetics at Trinity by Mahaffy, whose own position on literature and art seems to have been partly derived from the German philosopher: ‘he took,’ Wilde commented with approval, ‘the deliberately artistic standpoint towards everything.’
Gautier’s Mademoiselle de Maupin was probably among the French novels Wilde devoured in his youth, and he knew the writings of Rossetti and Swinburne practically by heart. He was famous at Trinity for being their ardent disciple, and for echoing their Aesthetic views. His association with the movement was also indicated by his devotion to the works of Symonds, another ‘aesthete’, as well as by his extravagant aesthetic attire, which included a pair of ‘Umbrian’ trousers that excited much laughter in the quads. Wilde was fashioning the aesthete’s persona he would perfect at Oxford, where he dressed flamboyantly, ostentatiously littered his room with beautiful objects, and coined the celebrated phrase: ‘I find it harder and harder every day to live up to my blue china.’
Wilde had therefore been thoroughly prepared for the Renaissance by his earlier reading. Before he came across Pater, as he put it later, he had already gone ‘more than half-way’ to meeting him. Yet if the don offered him little that was original in theoretical terms, his book was probably the most intellectually stimulating and stylistically seductive expression of the Aesthetic creed that Wilde had ever read.
What a moving post.. I find it incredible that you would be the target of hate mail, how truely dispicable. I just wanted to counterbalance that in a small way by saying how much I’ve enjoyed reading your blog over the years. The book reviews in particular have led me to books I might not have otherwise encountered (currently reading the Newton bio by Gleick). As my wife likes to say: Illegitimum non carborundum (don’t let the bastards get you down). Best wishes, Paul
Paul – thank you so much! I love that “bastards” quote, a running theme in The Handmaid’s Tale, and a wonderful mantra. Glad to hear you’re reading the Newton book – I really really liked it!
oh Sheila ..
Sheila, while you have been very private, your distress over the last few years has shone through the cracks. Its horrible that you were subjected to evil during this past difficult time. I’m glad some goodness came through for you and your family.
I have been reading here for years, and love your insights on acting, literature, and life. Thank you.
Yes, very distressed. Thank you for noticing, and thank you for being kind.
It always amazes me how cruel people can be, and on the other hand how truely good others are in a world that can be very dark.
I’ve read your site for years now and I enjoy it greatly. You have introduced me to authors I never would have found otherswise and its good to know that there is someone else out there that obsesses about Cary Grant the way I do :)
1) I now love Thomas Wright.
2) I love Sheila O’Malley.
Isn’t Thomas Wright the best? I hope he finds this post some day. His actions meant a lot to me. I know he was just a writer getting the word out about his book, but it was so much more to me.
Sheila. It is unthinkable that you would be subjected to this kind of hatred when you give us all such a gift. I think your blog is one of the best things that has happened to me in the past years. I found having children and working full time diverted me from my passions of reading and learning and researching but you seem to feed that part of me. I wish you the best of everything Sheila and I hope you’ll let us know when you’re coming to Chicago!
Kate – My script is coming to Chicago for a reading on November 14. It’ll be at one of the theatres in The Theatre Building. I’ll provide more details when I know them.
Thanks!
Thank you everyone. Had a busy morning and didn’t want to check back here. Afraid of what I might find. But you all have been so nice. Thank you.
I’ve gotten hate mail since I started this site. I have discovered it is one of the byproducts of writing vulnerably and openly. Also people seem to have a kneejerk response to enthusiasm. I can’t explain it – I myself do not have such a kneejerk response – I run TOWARDS enthusiastic people – but many obviously do not feel the same way. My Elvis posts were recently referred to as “fanfic” on Twitter – and while this does not constitute as “hate” in any way shape or form – it is the kind of condescension that I have faced from the start. OBVIOUSLY it hasn’t stopped me. I am now used to it. But the hate mail during that time of my father’s illness and into the first months of his death was somethign different – a personal attack, on my looks, my romantic status, and a desire that I stop “whining”. (Meanwhile: I never write about my current romantic life on the site. These were all assumptions on these people’s parts.) “Oh boo-hoo” was a common phrase in the emails. I kept blocking them from commenting and blacklisting them so I couldn’t even get the emails, but they got around it. Not a million people – just two in particular. They’re still out there. It’s sad, really. I don’t say that in an insincere way – it really is just SAD.
anyway: thanks everyone. and thank you, Thomas Wright, for coming through.
Sheila–As usual, a wonderful post, especially about my Uncle Bill–who was the best kind of Uncle: Supportive in thought, expression and deed. Showing up, laughing, and taking an interest by constantly inquiring about what others were interested in, trying to achieve, etc. It is the singular trait about that family–the interest–genuine interest that the entire extended family has in what someone else is doing or pursuing or what it is you want to achieve. It, of course, stems from our grandmother, and it is a trait shared by my dad and all his O’Malley siblings–and it is absolutely sincere.
One more addendum to the moment in the car with your Dad. As we were waiting for the crowd to settle, we were chatting in the limo and this was the most ridiculous yet awesome part of the conversation:
I had been working on a series that had me doing WAY more physical activity than normal in terms of staged fights, gunfights, etc and being the ripe 40 years old I was–I threw my back out. Well, in a family like ours, when you tell one person your back has been thrown out, your basically telling everyone AND you are essentially making certain that every time you see anyone they will ask you about your back and how it is YEARS later. So clearly, in some conversation my dad or mom had had with Uncle Bill over the previous month, this bad back info had been conveyed in a normal “catching up” conversation.
So there I am with Uncle Bill in the car, and as he and I catch up, he’s in obvious pain, his amputation brand new, knowing his end was nearing and he looks at me with absolute genuine interest and says:
“So, Mike, how’s your back? Still bothering you?”
What a guy. RIP Uncle Bill.
Mike – And all in our generation continue that tradition. Facebook makes it even worse. You can’t hide anything there.
“How’s your back?” Classic. Perfectly told.
I’m glad we’re O’Malleys.
xo
Sheila,
I’m so sorry about your dad. I wish those of us who love you through your blog could reach out through the computer and hug you whenever you need one.
I love your enthusiasm. My aunt has been gone for many years I still miss her a lot. I never understood her love of Elvis until recently. I remember seeing her months after he died – probably Thanksgiving or Christmas of that year. She was still teary eyed talking about his death. Your posts have made me understand her a little better. Thank you for that.
Jill – what a nice nice thing to say. Thank you.
So Mike, how’s your back doing? I heard you threw it out.
Oh, hon. You are a brave dear girl and I love you.
I hate haters!
Just remember there are people out here who think you are wonderful!
Life is too short to stress yourself with people who don’t even deserve to be an issue in your life. (Anon)
I am shocked, appalled and disgusted that anyone would send you hate mail of such a personal nature at any time, much less than when you were going such personal turmoil. Seriously, don’t people have anything better to do than torment people online? Get a hobby, for God’s sake!
THANK YOU for this blog, Sheila. Your enthusiasm and insightfulness on your subjects are much appreciated on this end. It is obvious the strength and spirit of your father lives on in you. : )
Everyone: thank you. There is a lot of darkness in this world – I call it evil – but God, there is so much light too. I thank you all for reading over the years, for supporting me, and for your words in response to this post.
The darkness never gets me. There’s just not ENOUGH of it. But it’s nice to hear from you all anyway.
you are amazing, sheila! you are a *gift*. thank you so much for your writing, and for being you. keep on keeping on ^_^
I’m so sorry that happened to you, Sheila. Your openness is such a gift to us, your readers. It’s too bad people try to spoil it.
And I’m not sure if I have expressed sympathy out loud here before, but late as I may be, I am very sorry for your loss. Your father sounds like a lovely man.
Thank you, Anne. At the time, I couldn’t bear to write about it on my site. It was not to be shared – it was a family matter – but suddenly when Oscars’ Books came up on the shelf, I decided to write about it.
I sincerely hope you are doing well (and still writing, I hope?)
For the rest of my life I will buy anything Thomas Wright writes.
Thank you for this Sheila.
Terra Marique Potens. That is your dad in a nutshell.
I love you. I love your family. I love YOU. What else is there to say?
Thanks, Sheila. I’m having a baby early next year, and will probably be frantically attempting to finish up a children’s story before that. Not sure how that will go. I’m generally bad at finishing these things.
Such a powerful post, Sheila, and I adore that photo of you and your dad. Even though I never had the pleasure of meeting your dad, he definitely shines through you (and your siblings), and particularly in this post. Thanks for sharing with us.
Sheila,
What a heartfelt and beautifully written post. Your Dad would be so proud! It is hard to admit one’s vulnerability but it is also the way we all connect. Never give up your enthusiasm for what you love. It feeds you and also those who experience through your writing, so many wonderful things. Light will always triumph over darkness.
LOVE. Yeah that’s right, this is some love mail. We discussed the other day leading with love so …well here you are, I am writing some blatant, in your face love mail. LOVE. So there take my love and know what else? LOVE.
I take your love, Phil! I give it right back!
Thank you for this post, Sheila! That really was so amazing when that book arrived. And it also made Dad so happy and excited.
And for the hate mail people: please send the hate mail to me, instead of Sheila, and I will hunt you down and make you rue the day! Don’t mess with Texas! And by Texas, I mean, my siblings.
Siobhan – I will now forward all hate mail to you then! I’ll forward them to the entire O’Malley clan and everyone can chase them down!
xoxo