“Are there any regrets?”

Christine Lavin. Songwriter, folk singer, supporter of the independent folk scene, a total legend. My group of college friends all used to be so so into her, I’ve seen her play a bazillion times and I have discovered other musicians I absolutely adore because of her. Cliff Eberhardt mostly – God. I just love that man and his music. But also Lucy Kaplansky. These are people I see whenever they come within a 50 mile radius of New York City – but it all goes back to Lavin. I got into her in college – and introduced her music to my boyfriend at the time – and he loved it. We saw her play a million times together. If you’ve never heard any of her stuff – I highly recommend it. Some of it is absolutely hilarious – her song about only dating guys with air conditioners really hit a nerve with me. And her song (a true story) about playing baseball for the first time – as an adult – and the WHIRLWIND of ensuing emotions is a true classic – and it brings me to tears at the end almost every time I hear it. She also has a way of capturing tiny moments … snapshots … indelible images … the fleeting quality of beauty, or love, or peace … She really knows how to write about that stuff.

Here’s the lyrics to one of her songs.

The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
© 1990 Christine Lavin

I know a couple
She sits in a rocking chair working puzzles
He watches TV upstairs
She has a secret she has never let out
A man she thinks he never knew about.
She hasn’t seen him in 30 years
The mention of his name doesn’t brings on tears
If you ask her “Are there any regrets?”
She’ll tell you “No”
But she never forgets.

It was The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
Even though she found another one to take his place
She never will escape the truth
At times like this
When the moon is bright
When the air is foggy like it is tonight
She’ll think about what might have been
If she had just held on to him.

I know a man who has done it all
He sailed the oceans
Climbed the mountains of Nepal
He lives high up on the Avenue
With a beautiful wife
Lovely children too.
But there’s a woman he still dreams about
Certian thing’s he’s learned to live without
If you ask him “Are there any regrets?”
He’ll tell you “No”
But he never forgets.

It was The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
Even though he found another one to take her place
He never will escape the truth
At times like this
When the moon is bright
When the air is foggy like it is tonight
He’ll think about what might have been
If he had not let her
Slip away from him.

I read about a woman who said
She never regretted
Anything she’s ever done
Such arrogant words always seem to be spoken by those
Who then die young.

So here am I
Looking at you
Oh tell me
What are we gonna do?
Am I destined to be your regret
Are you that one I will never forget?
Years from now will we curse the day
You let me let you walk away
Isn’t this too dear a price to pay
For the freedom
Of going separate ways?

This is The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
Don’t tell me that I’m gonna find another one to take your place
I never will escape the truth
At times like this
When the moon is bright
When the air is foggy like it is tonight
I’ll think how sweet life could be
If you would stay with me
Oh stay with me
This is The Kind of Love You Never Recover From
Don’t tell me that I’m gonna find another one to take your place
And try to face the truth
Let me hold you close tonight
The fog has lifted
And the moon is so bright
Think how sweet life could be
If you would stay with me
Oh stay with me
This is The Kind of Love You Never Recover From.
This is The Kind of Love You Never Recover From.

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5 Responses to “Are there any regrets?”

  1. Ken says:

    Man. Dead on target.

  2. mike says:

    Haven’t been here in a while-How about “Sensitive New Age Guys” as one of the funniest ever-with the backup singers getting more and more tentative with each verse
    There is a great cover of The Kind of Love You Never Recover From-in a collection of Lavin covers-I can’t find the CD right now and am having trouble finding it on the web -but that version is by a man and just spendid

  3. just1beth says:

    I don’t know who I hate more- you for posting that, or her for writing it. My heart has burst into a million teeny pieces right now. Man.

  4. red says:

    beth – I know. shattered heart. Lavin does that so so well.

    It’s one of those songs I have to be really careful about when I listen to it. It came to mind yesterday and – I did not subject myself to listening to it – I’m no idiot!! – but I did post the lyrics because they said the whole situation better than I could.

  5. Iain says:

    Wow… I did not know this song at all, but now thanks to iTunes I do. And I have the feeling that it’s never going to let me go. Now I understand “It’s one of those songs I have to be really careful about when I listen to it“.

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