I was very moved by this film. My family just went through this experience over the last 4 years so it was a very intense watch. I reviewed Our Friend for Ebert.
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I was very moved by this film. My family just went through this experience over the last 4 years so it was a very intense watch. I reviewed Our Friend for Ebert.
It’s nice to hear about a movie that covers all the aspects of cancer because normally they do show people becoming better from it, which is true, but the dark side is dark. Caregiver fatigue is so real and makes one feel so fucking guilty. I agree also with the part everyone is supportive in the beginning but then shit gets real and it’s like no one can deal. I really want to see this movie but not sure I’m in the right head space yet. My husband passed from cancer a little less than three years ago. Never did I think I’d become a widow at 44 to the man that had been my world since I was 18. Nor did I think I’d become a single parent the moment I became a widow. Sorry for the rambling, I guess it was triggering. My point is all sides need to be told the positive, the ugly, the real.
I’m very very sorry you and your family are dealing with this also. My heart is with you and all those that loved your family member.
Jen – it’s not rambling at all. I am so so sorry to hear about your husband. Yes, this is just what my sister is going through right now and it is heartbreaking and almost … unimaginable … even though so many others have gone through it. For everyone going through it, it is the first time.
I couldn’t help but connect to our experience watching the film – it’s very very personal (and almost too much, tbh. I didn’t know that going in – and I think it was assigned at random – not like ‘we know you’ll relate, please review it”) – so I was not prepared for how much it got to me.
I get so angry about “cancer movies” in general. Cancer affects millions of people. It scares everyone. Unless you’ve gone through it – then you shouldn’t “use it” as a plot device. Or you should think twice. People need to see their experiences reflected onscreen – even if they’re tremendously sad or upsetting. So Our Friend was very welcome in its honesty.
and again – so very sorry for your loss.
Thank you Shelia for your kind response. Your sister, family and all those affected by this loss are in my thoughts and prayers. It’s truly something I believe you never get over but I’ve learned if you don’t meet it head on it can eat you alive. Love and light to you all 🌼
Thank you Jen. One of the reasons I’ve moved is so I can be closer to my sister and the kids and help out in any way they might need. Lift the load – even if its just taking the kids to their activities or watching movies with them. Whatever.
Family is so important. AND talking about him all the time. We put out a stocking for him for Christmas and the kids all wrote notes to him. I think my sister is doing an amazing job – but I worry about her too. Caregiver fatigue. Like … when does she get to grieve? She’s so freakin busy.
Anyway, thank you for the support – right back at you!