“Given as much to the gutter as to the gods” — Nick Tosches

“He was born alone. He would die alone. These truths, he, like every punk, took to heart. But in him they framed another truth, another solitary, stubborn stone in the eye of nothing. There was something, a knowing, in him that others did not apprehend. He was born alone, and he would die alone, yes. But in between — somehow — the world in all its glory would hunker down before him like a sweet-lipped High Street whore.” — Nick Tosches, Dino: Living High in the Dirty Business of Dreams

It’s his birthday today.

He died in December, 2019. I MISS HIM.

My Tosches Gateway Drug was his sui generis biography of Dean Martin, Dino: Living High in the Dirty Business of Dreams, and probably by page 2 I was thinking: “Okay. I must read every. single. word. this man ever wrote.”

And so I did. Thank God for The Nick Tosches Reader.

But there’s also his FIREBALL (pun intended) of a biography of Jerry Lee Lewis, Hellfire: The Jerry Lee Lewis Story, which reads like it was written during a single speed-fueled weekend. Dino has a deliberate and almost epic quality, the book takes its time, it lingers in spots where Tosches needs to elaborate, dig in … there’s none of that in Hellfire. From start to finish the book barely takes a breath.

What is most amazing is that Tosches’ subject outlived his biographer. Who the hell saw THAT one coming.

It’s almost impossible to convey what it is Tosches does to those who haven’t read him. When people talk about his Dino biography, or his Jerry Lee Lewis biography, they talk about it in raving evangelical tones. I know I do. We sound like a bunch of nutbags. I love Ron Chernow’s biographies. I love David McCullough’s biographies. I love Joseph Ellis’ biographies. But I don’t talk about their work the way I talk about Tosches’. He’s just different. A unicorn. He’s so quotable it is almost overwhelming: your mind keeps stopping every other sentence to contemplate not just what he says but HOW he says it. I want to make that clear: He is one of the few writers where I don’t care WHAT he’s writing about, I’m gonna read it. We’re talking about writing SKILL, ya dig. His writing is such a fingerprint he’s almost impossible to imitate. Similar to Truman Capote, to Lester Bangs … he carved his own lane. The overall impact of Tosches’ work – particularly his book-length works (although it exists in his shorter pieces too) – is cumulative. He builds … and builds … and builds … The more you read, the more you learn, about the various subjects but also about the man with the pen. He puts him SELF out there in his writing so strongly he’s hard to resist. This is what I try to do, in my own way. I am not here to convince you. I am here to state my OWN point of view as strongly as I can. If you agree, awesome, but agreement is not necessary. I am trying to get what is IN my head, my dreams, my thoughts, how I make sense of things, I am trying to get all of that OUT of me. Best I can. Tosches’ point of view is so seductive, his prose is so seductive, he practically hypnotizes you. If you disagree with his “take” on Dino, it barely matters. He barely leaves you room to maneuver with your own “take”. He’s like a brilliant prosecutor. Dean Martin was great and he didn’t need Tosches to “explain” him to the rest of us – HOWEVER: has anyone else thought DEEPER about Dean Martin than Tosches? I suggest to you: NO. Tosches gave a shit enough and had enough to say and SAW enough in Dean and his story … to put it all in that book. The conversation around Dean Martin is forever changed because of Tosches’ biography. There aren’t too many biographies you can say that about.

To call it a biography does it a disservice. It is an excavation of Dean Martin’s SOUL, but it’s also an in-depth geographical exploration of the Italian immigrant’s experience in America. I could not write like Tosches if I lived 100 more years, but I do take from it not just inspiration but a challenge. At least know a bar has been set … be aware of The Greats who came before you, allow them to push you to be better. And so when I write about Elvis, I am giving you MY Elvis. I have come to my “take” on him through studying him, inhaling him, dreaming about him, reading everything about him, pondering him. This is why people who have only thought of him shallow-ly, or who just take preconceived notions of him based on things other people said, don’t fare very well when they come at me about Elvis. I’ve thought more about this than you have. I can say that with confidence. lol

So here’s just one excerpt from Dino that shows Tosches working the way he works. To say this is a book “about Dean Martin” is ridiculous. Look at what he pulls off here.

The Desert Inn was still several months away from opening when Dean and Jerry arrived in September 1949. The Flamingo was still the jewel of that stretch of Highway 91 that came to be called the Strip. The Rex Cigar Store, the Jungle Inn, the 500 Club, the Riviera – the great and gaudy neon cathedral of the Flamingo was all these joints exalted. Here, married by God and by state, anointed in the blood of Bugsy Siegel, Unterwelt and American dream lay down together in greed.

Martin and Lewis by now were among the beloved of that dream, embracing and embraced by the spirit of a post-heroic, post-literate, cathode-culture America. The Flamingo was the pleasure dome of the new prefab promised land: a land of chrome, not gold; of Armstrong linoleum, not Carrara marble; of heptalk, not epos of prophecy.

Martin and Lewis were the jesters of that land. Time magazine, then as always the cutting edge of lumpen-American mediocrity, the vox populi of the modern world, celebrated the dazzling appeal of their hilarity. The heart of their audience, the nightclub clientele whose reduction to a quivering mass of thunderous yockers Variety attested again and again, was sophisticated, white-collared, and well-heeled. The sophisticated, white-collared, and well-heeled New York Times itself, in an article published while Martin and Lewis were in Las Vegas, hailed their “refreshing brand of comic hysteria,” their “wild and uninhibited imagination”.

And yet, these few years later, the nature of that appeal is as alien and as difficult to translate as the language, syntax, and meter of Catallus. There are no films or tapes of their nightclub act. Only secondary fragments have survived to be judged: glimpses of routines reworked for pictures, such as the “Donkey Serenade” scene in My Friend Irma, and for pale renderings on radio; a few rare kinescopes of television broadcasts, none of them predating 1952. Those fragments convey almost nothing of the dazzling appeal of that hilarity proclaimed in contemporary accounts. And yet the howling laughter present in many of those fragments, in the radio shows and television performances, all done before live spectators, is unanswerable. Those spectators, who had lined up for free shows at network studios, were not the same urbane nightclub-goers who howled at the Copacabana or Chez Paree or the Flamingo. Their sense of yockery was perhaps homelier; but, on the other hand, it was less primed by booze. Jerry was right: Martin and Lewis appealed to everyone. But why?

“Let us not be deceived,” the New York Times had declared in April 1947, while Dean and Jerry had been playing at the Loew’s Capitol; “we are today in the midst of a cold war.” Now, in September 1949, while they were in Las Vegas, President Truman, the first president to have a televised inauguration, revealed that the Soviet Union had set off an atomic-bomb explosion. A week later, on October 1, Chairman Mao Tse-tung would formally proclaim the Communist People’s Republic of China. In January, Truman would order the development of the hydrogen bomb. Six months later, United States ground troops would invade South Korea. “Let us not be deceived” — but America wanted nothing more than to be deceived. Martin and Lewis gave them that: not laughter in the dark, but a denial of darkness itself, a regression, a transporting to the preternatural bliss of infantile senselessness. It was a catharsis, a celebration of ignorance, absurdity, and stupidity, as meaningless, as primitive-seeming, and as droll today as the fallout shelters and beatnik posings which offered opposing sanctuary in those days so close in time but so distant in consciousness.

Those days were the beginning of the end of timelessness. Homer’s Odyssey spoke throughout the ages; Kerouac’s American odyssey, On the Road, would have a shelf life, and would prove after a handful of years more outdated and stale than Homer after thousands. But like the detergent on the shelf in that other supermarket aisle, it was for the moment new and improved; and that is what mattered. And that is why the dead-serious pretensions of Kerouac today seem so droll while the comedy of that same necrophiliac era seems so unfunny.

Dean, of course, had no use for any of this shit. He did not know the new and improved from the old and well-worn. Homer, Sorelli the Mystic: it was all the same shit to him. The Trojan War, World War II, the Cold War, what the fuck did he care? His hernia was bigger than history itself. He cared as much about Korea as Korea cared about his fucking hernia. He walked through his own world. And that world was as much a part of what commanded those audiences as the catharsis of the absurd slapstick; and it would continue to command, long after that catharsis, like a forgotten mystery rite, had lost all meaning and power. His uncaring air of romance reflected the flash and breezy sweet seductions of a world in which everything came down to broads, booze, and money, with plenty of linguine on the side. There was a beckoning to join him in the Lethe of the old ways’ woods that appealed to the lover, the menefreghista, the rotten cocksucker, the sweet-hearted dreamer in everyone.

I think what I’m trying to say is: for Tosches, shit is ALWAYS personal.

The thing about writing the way Tosches does: it’s vulnerable, because it reveals the level of your obsession. It reveals how much you GIVE a shit, how in thrall YOU are to your own subject. A lot of people, for some reason, hesitate, they don’t want to show us this, and so they fall back onto a bullshit tone of “objectivity”. It protects them. Tosches doesn’t give a fuck. He lives in the fucked-up darkness.

I take being a fan of something VERY seriously. Go as deep as you must. People will make fun of you. Call you “too much.” Fuck em. They’re just scared. Nick Tosches taught me that.

Tosches has written so much, too much to even absorb in one sitting:

— For Vanity Fair, he wrote a famous piece about his search for the last opium den (one of the most fucked-up things I’ve ever read in any major publication)

— his GREAT biography of Sonny Liston

— his incredible study of Unsung Heroes Of Rock ‘n’ Roll: The Birth Of Rock In The Wild Years Before Elvis

— his first book was about country music, Country.

Tosches is so so American, in every sense of the word. He is interested in the dark corners of Americana, forgotten byways, the criminal, the undersung, the fucked-up, the borderline cases.

I could pick his prose out just hearing it. He’s similar to Clifford Odets in that way.

I started re-reading The Nick Tosches Reader in 2019, right before he died. The timing was eerie. It took me a couple of months to go through the whole thing, reading on average a piece a day.

Some of his writing is soaringly transcendent but there’s always darkness too, it wouldn’t be Tosches without the darkness. Sometimes he shimmers with contempt. But his contempt isn’t a rant – not that there’s anything bad about ranting (nothing is bad if you can write as well as Tosches does. Lester Bangs ranted all the time, and I love it.) With Tosches, though, his contempt makes him even MORE focused, and his focus makes his critique that much more brutal. Like his piece on the concert for Bangladesh at Madison Square Garden – which he attended. That piece is so funny, and it drips with poisonous observations about the hypocrisy of all those middle-class do-gooders, as well as his dismay of the transformation of dangerous rock ‘n roll into something socially conscious and earnest and helpful and “aware”. In other words, not rock ‘n roll at all.

Like this:

On teevee they showed what the ticket-line area looked like after da people had, after waiting hours, gotten their tickets. It was just a whole big, dense trail of garbage. Soda cans, beer cans, newspapers, food wrappers, liquor bottles, wine bottles, paper bags. All sorts of ugly shit. And it just seems like plain old logic that people who don’t give a shit about so totally contaminating their immediate environment couldn’t possibly give two garboons about a few Pakistanis getting snuffed out of the carbon cycle scene thousands of miles away. What’s all this ‘Blowin’ in the Wind’ shit? How come no songs about litterbugs? A person incapable of holding on to an empty wine bottle until he gets to a garbage receptacle is incapable of empathizing with Hollis Brown.

Throughout the piece, he keeps coming back to the image of the line of dirty hippies aglow with helping the world … littering up the sidewalk. They literally left the area outside Madison Square Garden as a garbage dump. Tosches keeps coming back to it:

I mean, people are dying and getting bricked out and the whole world is contaminated and this guy gets up there and sings “My sweet Lord/Hmm my Lord.” The total tepidity and quasi-philosophic non-relevance of such macrokitsch is on a par with Schopenhauer’s literary luncheon suicide spiels and Bertrand Russell’s “war crime tribunals.” Think of it as a two-track stereo tape and out of one channel you’ve got all these groans and screams and tuberculosis vomits and death noises and sobs and out of the other channel there’s this saccharine voice crooning nice Lord, sweet Lord, kiss kiss, here comes the sun, nice Lord, kiss kiss, sugar sugar, kiss kiss glitter glitter.

Schopenhauer? Bertrand Russell? Classic Tosches. He also is a living reminder of the importance of reading widely, reading curiously, reading everything. If you’re a writer and you don’t read … IT SHOWS. If you’re a writer and you only read stuff within your own narrow field … IT SHOWS.

One last observation to throw into the mix: Nick Tosches was self-educated. He did not go to college. He barely made it out of high school. He grew up rough on the streets of Newark and the surrounding gritty Jersey towns. He was a self-described punk. He brings an authentic working-class perspective to the question of American culture. Middle-class niceties were POISON to him. This has become a recent obsession: teasing out and searching for legitimately working-class points-of-view – in artists, writers, filmmakers. It’s hard to find. Tosches came from the streets. And yet he wrote the way he did. But you can feel the streets in everything he writes. This is very very important.

In the Madison Square Garden piece, he writes, and this is perhaps the most important paragraph:

I mean, does rock’n’ roll have anything to do with anything? Once it adopts pretensions of meaningfulness outside that of a self-contained expression, matrical and flashing, doesn’t it become art or pop/kitsch? If not, how come all the psychedelic dreck of the last five years in retrospect, can’t hold a candle, in terms of cosmic epiphany or plain old life energy, to Little Richard of The Heartbeats? Little Richard, via his pure white-energy raunch and total over-simplification, had the power to make people say “fuck it” and turn their backs on their own control conditioning and just go out and debauch and catch a glimpse of the violent, drunken, loving, dancing Universe.

(Lester Bangs made a similar observation about Elvis in his famous 1977 obituary.)

Tosches goes on and on in a devastating crescendo of what can’t even be called criticism and really should be called a societal-generational-cultural indictment and ends with:

So send your loot to the East Pakistani Relief Fund c/o The United Nations, but remember that you can’t be a litterbug and save mankind at the same time. But who says you should care about saving mankind in the first place? A-womp bop a-lu bomp a-womp bam boom. Cuentaselo a tu abuela.

Later.

Here’s a pic of Tosches in 1972, a year after this piece on the concert for Bangladesh. He’s on the left.

Many of the pieces included in the Reader are frankly pornographic, detailing his crazy relationships, all of which began in barrooms (as he admits), and many are legit laugh out loud funny. Sometimes it’s not even the situation that’s funny – what’s funny is how he turns a phrase. Also: he’s for grown-ups. Tosches is rated R and X. It’s so REFRESHING, particularly in a time where even grown-ups seem to prefer living in a rated-G universe, worry-warting over the language other adults use, even to describe their OWN experiences! WTF, people.

In the middle of what seems like a pedestrian topic Tosches will toss some transcendence/darkness your way.

Excerpts from The Nick Tosches Reader

1.

“We shared, he in his erudite way and I in my unlettered fashion, a love for those ancient fragments that were the wisps of the source, the wisps of origin, the wisps of the first and truest expression of all that since has been said. And we both had dirty minds, given as much to the gutter as to the gods.”

2.

“No ‘flower children’ they, the sinister emanation of a generation who only yesterday, it seems, were set on changing a world in the shadow of nuclear holocaust and overpopulation into a piece of utopia and love. They drop the knee of fealty before the Antichrist.”

My Utopia is being surrounded by people who distrust Utopias.

3.

“…death-row blowjob of a down…”

4.

“Yes, it’s an old cliche that it’s an old cliche but there’re two sides to every story.”

5.

“…seedy Lotharios of the muse’s dowry…”

WHAT.

6.

“Although I have since forsaken these more esoteric preoccupations for a life, as my dear mum once put it, ‘just fooling around and hiding behind a bottle,’ I have retained the patois of the ars arcuns for retaliative use among the intimidating spiritual hoi polloi of the outer Sephir.”

See what I mean? That’s his fingerprint. But what even IS that.

7.

“It’s just like last year I couldn’t get out of Ogalala, Nebraska, for eleven fucking days I did everything but I couldn’t get out.”

8.

“If you still think that existentialism is anything more than getting laid in Paris and acting twenty years older than you are …”

9.

“…merely arcane to the leeringly heinous…”

I mean …

10.

“I am 18, just like Alice Cooper.”

lol

11.

“…the fierce winds of whatchamacallit…”

LOL

12.

“…you never know where on the river’s shores the tides of honky tonk seraphim and shot glasses will puke you up.”

13.

“It was like necrophilia without any of the sensationalism.”

This, by the way, is about having sex with a woman when she’s menstruating.

14.

“…arch moll of rhythm’d word”

… this on Patti Smith

15.

“…out to recast poetry with the nighttime slut-gait of rock ‘n’ roll.”

…again on Patti Smith

16.

“…a communique direct from the Antichrist of all that was politically correct”

… on the horrified reader response to one of his columns

17.

“I realize now that [the Stones’] ‘Honky Tonk Woman’ was welcome detumescence for the sixties, and a surly, languid waking from the restless sleep of ideology.”

JESUS LORD.

18.

“Though I never drank when I wrote, I drank more than I wrote.”

19.

“He could hear the garbage trucks in the distance, and he knew that dawn, the vanquisher of dark confusion, would soon come.”

“Vanquisher of dark confusion” – just tossed in there – makes it recognizably his. It’s something I would feel silly writing, because it doesn’t come from me, not really. But it DOES come from him, the deepest part of him.

20,

“Dempsey went mad with the lust that only sadness with its wild black cawings could inspire…”

That’s my 20s and early 30s right there. “Wild black cawings” is magnificent.

21.

“Second, lighten up on the broads. Sure, Jezebel was a floozy. But is it really necessary to have her devoured by dogs, a scene that has doubtless cost the book countless female readers? Why not give her a nervous breakdown, or a career crisis, after which she is allowed to find herself?”

… his tips to the Bible on how it could be better

22.

“No, Elvis did not invent rock ‘n’ roll. But he was its avatar, the embodiment of its spirit and might. He was more than a star. He possessed the souls of his followers. Virgins burned for him, and boys strove to recast themselves in his image. He had charisma, in the true and Greek New Testament sense of that word, meaning, divine grace. It was that grace, that mysterious, innocent power, that raised Elvis, the singer with no song of his own, the praiser of abject mediocrity (proclaiming at the height of his fame, in 1957, that Pat Boone had “undoubtedly the finest voice out now”), from the merely mundane to the profoundly ineffable. He could have started a religion. In a way, he did.”

This from his extraordinary essay “Elvis in Death.” He says up front he was not a fan of Elvis. But he understood the power, and was fascinated by it.

23.

“However we choose to look at Elvis Presley–as a saint, a savior, or a monstrosity, as the apotheosis of America’s fatal and garish yearning; or as the final god in the pantheon of the West–we can be sure that the likes of him will not pass this way again… One thing is certain. In an age bereft of magic, Elvis was the last great mystery, the secret of which lay unrevealed even to himself. That he failed, fatally, to comprehend that mystery gives the rest of us little hope of ever doing so. After all, the greatest and truest mysteries are those without explanations.”

Tears.

I think my favorite piece in the Reader is called “Lust in the Balcony”. In it, he describes trolling the movie theatres of Jersey City – my ‘hood! – as a teenager, looking for willing girls to feel up in various balconies. That’s the set-up but the piece morphs into an all-encompassing culturally-literate and brilliantly-insightful analysis of 1960s Hollywood movies and how “salaciously pure” they were. Consider those two words together. A more accurate description of the majority of 1960s movies, particularly comedies, does not exist. As a writer, he has his cake/eats it too: we get the picture of teenage virgin Tosches aching for sex in the balcony, and we also get a very funny description of what was actually up on the screen, and how weird it was, and why he thought that weirdness was in existence. The movies represented a complete dichotomy with life on the ground as it was lived: So you’re trying to find a girl during a screening of Beach Blanket Bingo, and as he’s trolling, he knows if he strolled into Beach Blanket Bingo doing the same thing, he’d be run off the beach as a dirty nasty boy.

So it’s personal essay and cultural critique. We have his teenage perspective (“tumescence stirred the shark-skin of my adolescence” – take a second to relish those words, don’t take it for granted, nobody else has the balls to write like this), but then we have the adult Tosches, familiar with the so-called “industry”, with perspective on why the hell the movies were like that.

On Elvis movies:

In the thirteen Elvis pictures released in the years 1961 to 1965, Presley sang, danced, and (to choose a merciful word) acted his way through an endless gauntlet of young, wet female flesh–without ever once getting laid … what confused us was that the possibility of getting laid was never even intimated. It was as if there no such thing as fucking, as if all lust were slaked by a kiss.

On the “beach” movies of Annette Funicello and Frankie Avalon:

Even more otherworldly in its chastity was the series of films … starring the Romeo and Juliet of all-American asexuality … Beach Party, Bikini Beach, Muscle Beach Party and Beach Blanket Bingo. There was something vaguely frightening about these spayed and gelded California beach creatures, so unlike the habitues of our own Jersey shore–something that seemed to imply that brutal desires, like beer bellies and unfiltered cigarettes, had no place in the land of happiness.

The piece is dazzling, and it is what I try to do in my own work. I think what really matters here is curiosity. Tosches is able to look back on his own innocence, and has the curiosity to go, “WTF with those MOVIES, let me put some time into thinking about it and sorting it out.” Many people never do this. Incorporating personal information into critical essays should be used sparingly, and also – you just flat out have to know how to write to pull it off. I am so bored with pieces that start off with a “here’s my personal experience as a preamble”, before launching into a long piece about being a lonely misfit and how this or that movie made you feel not so alone. And listen, I’ve written them in the past. That was the past. Since this now is THE template, I’ve stopped, or at least I choose my moments carefully. Critics promote their stuff on Twitter saying, “This is the most personal I’ve ever been in any review.” And I don’t blame them. People flock to that stuff more eagerly than they do to a piece of straight cultural critique. I do not begrudge these people their hustle, I am just pointing out a trend. Being “personal” is viewed as having the most authority, it’s beyond criticism. Okay? But … wanting something to be beyond criticism means that even “personal” becomes “safe.” A couple years ago it felt like every review of Boyhood started with a sentence along the lines of “Boyhood makes me think of warm summer days in the golden age of my childhood”… I know I’m being bitchy. Let’s present the other side, just to not be so absolute: Of course: Personal experience is important and writers need to be able to know how to access that. The best critical writing DOES come from a personal place. But when you read 30 reviews of Boyhood in a row that start the same way you realize … well you realize a couple of things.
1. This movie touched a lot of people and that’s wonderful.
and
2. People are clearly not reading each others’ pieces. Because … maybe try something different.
and
3. A lot of people DON’T know how to write personally, even if their feelings ARE deeply personal, and so what comes out is banality, cliches. They can’t help it. They’re not good enough as writers to pull off what they want to pull off. There’s probably, too, a resistance to revealing too much at the same time you want to reveal. People only want to reveal the stuff that “makes them look good” which at this current moment in time means: “I have suffered.” “I was bullied.” “I didn’t fit in.” I am NOT saying these things don’t cause pain – please don’t misunderstand – but what I AM saying is that in this current moment it doesn’t take all that much “bravery” to admit these things. What would take bravery is to say “I am fairly well-adjusted.” or “I enjoyed high school” or, worse, “I loved being high school quarterback.” Admitting THAT would be a true act of bravery. What also takes bravery is to write about mistakes you’ve made, times you’ve hurt people (I wrote about this in my monster piece on Eminem: he admits shit about himself nobody wants to admit – like, being a bad lay, for example), having ambivalent feelings about being a mother (go and read the comments sections attached to pieces like that – anyone who has anything other than “I am in a glow of bliss” responses is PILLORIED – by other women, so, ladies you’re not off the hook.). What IS brave is to “tell on yourself” … that’s something almost NO ONE does. Tell us something that DOESN’T make you look good or empowered or aspirational. I think people are hungry for THAT kind of honesty too.

So you compare those “Boyhood makes me think of my childhood” pieces to something like Tosches’ piece about copping a feel in the balcony all while wondering why the hell no one was getting laid onscreen – it’s just no contest. Granted, this is probably an unfair comparison – Tosches a master – but sometimes unfair comparisons press us on to do better, be braver, go deeper, expose MORE of ourselves, how we think, what we think.

Tosches talking about the restless energy of teenage virgin boys, being set loose in these movie palaces, is VERY MUCH connected to his thesis about the “salaciously pure” movies in the 1960s.

Another one of the pieces I love is his “dirty letters” essay, about the “dirty letters” written by famous people to their significant others. He starts off with the most famous “dirty letters” in the canon – the ones James and Nora Joyce wrote to one another for the couple of months in their lifetime together when they were separated. These letters are notorious. And … okay … dirty, maybe? … but … James and Nora were consenting adults. Maybe people do all kinds of things in bed, have you ever considered that? Maybe there are 10 appetizers for every main course? Where did all this prudery come from?

But why this dirty letters piece by Tosches is so fun is that he introduces the subject with a paragraph on Joyce’s sexy letters and then wonders: “What would it be like if we had dirty letters from different authors through history?” And Tosches then WRITES imaginary dirty letters in the style of Henry James, Fitzgerald, Hemingway, Faulkner. These fake letters were so funny I was CRYING with laughter reading them. Tosches didn’t go to college, but the piece shows how well he knows literature, how he has read all of these people and absorbed their styles and quirks, how familiar he is with all of them, their vocabularies, their backstories. You can’t write a piece like this if you are not a voracious reader, and a highly learned man.

It’s basically pornographic, and yet you have to be literate to get 95% of the jokes.

I think my favorite was Henry James’ dirty letter. It’s one of the meanest things I’ve ever read, and yet I found myself thinking, “Yeah … this’d probably be how it would go.”

Sp happy birthday, Nick Tosches, conjurer of the chthonic forces acting upon us all, Dionysus and Apollo morphed into one being, visionary and reactor, transcendent and guttural, prince of fire and air. And dirt.

 
 
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Happy birthday, Fedelma Cullen

When I was a kid, and my family was in Ireland, my mother took me and 2 of my siblings to a production of A Doll’s House at the Abbey Theatre in Dublin. Dad stayed home with Siobhan, who was 4. I was 13 years old. My dad warned us as we left, “She kills herself at the end …” (My dad got it mixed up with Hedda Gabler, which is hilarious since he knew everything. His intentions were good: he wanted us to be prepared.) As a result, we spent the entire play waiting for her to kill herself. Nora walked out in the final scene, slammed the door, and we cringed, waiting to hear a gun shot. The curtain fell. The cast came out for their bows. We were relieved but very rattled. We all still joke about “Oh, that was the time Dad thought Nora was Hedda…”

That production is still so vivid in my mind I remember specific blocking. I remember the costumes, the set, the reds/pinks/ivories of the interiors – like a real-life Valentine. A smothering suffocating claustrophobic Valentine.

Since I was only 13, I didn’t know the play at all. Since I knew nothing about it, I just soaked it up. The whole thing was a total revelation to me. It was a bit “beyond” me, as a Tween – and I am so thankful to the things I saw and read as a child that were slightly “beyond” me. They forced some growth spurts, realizations about the world, and human beings – and not always good realizations. A lot of these things were painful but I am grateful for them in retrospect. The long-ago Abbey production of Doll’s House – and specifically the actress who played Nora – represents one of those growth spurts.

What stays in my head, burned there forever, is the scene where Nora dances to distract Torvald from going to the mailbox …

To this day, my memory of the scene, and her – how she played it – stands as one of the greatest single pieces of acting I have ever seen in my life.

I don’t just chalk it up to being a child and therefore easily impressed. The scene was unBEARable to watch because her panic vibrated off the stage in gigantic waves, hitting me in the audience. I was pinned to my seat. I felt her urgency, I felt her objective. I knew why she danced like that, I understood the stakes. I felt how catastrophic it would be if he got the letter. I remember her costume: a blue dress, with elaborate black markings and black lace trimmings. She carried a black lace fan.

Nora’s objective: Do NOT let him go to the mailbox. DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO to keep him in the room.

The actress played this objective so powerfully and single-mindedly I wanted to jump up and scream at Torvald “DON’T GO TO THE MAILBOX!!” It’s one of the most stressful experiences I’ve ever had in the theatre.

We didn’t keep the program. There was no Internet. I didn’t know her name. Years passed. Decades of life occurred. But I never forgot what I saw that night at the Abbey. Every time I worked on a scene from A Doll’s House in acting classes I thought of her performance. A bar was set for me. Do THAT, or at least ATTEMPT to do what she did, otherwise you’re not doing the play. She cast such a long shadow in my memory. Once I knew a bit more about acting I understood. She became the epitome, for me, of so much, but most importantly of what it looks like when an actor plays an objective to the fullest.

Some years back, I thought: Let me find her damn name. I need her name, even though SHE will live in my memory forever because of her performance.

Her name was Fedelma Cullen. She died in 2003. She appeared in many productions at the Abbey. I was lucky enough to see that one. She changed my world.

She was one of the greatest actresses I’ve ever seen.

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“Being an actor means being an instrument for someone else. I want to give myself completely.” — Catherine Deneuve

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It’s her birthday today.

She was great right out of the gate. One of the unique things about her career (and she has few peers here) is that she has regularly been regaled as one of the most beautiful women in the world, and her beauty is something she uses and works with and understands, but her interests do not lie in exploiting her looks. Or, she doesn’t “trade” on her looks. The looks exist, and she understands them. She does not fight against them in order to be taken seriously. The looks are in service to HER, as opposed to the other way around. (Mitchell and I were discussing this yesterday and Deneuve’s similarity to Gena Rowlands in that regard. Both women clearly know – or knew, sob, rip gena – they are stunning, and yet their choices reveal what interests them, and it is NOT their beauty alone. Both of them could have had one kind of career. The “pretty girl” career. Neither of them did.)

Deneuve continues to act. She continues to play interesting characters. She is still a mega-watt star in her 70s. She is in rare company. Rowlands. Barbra Streisand. Deneuve’s presence in anything is an EVENT. She is a pioneer for elderly actresses (in particular, beautiful elderly actresses). Plenty of character actresses appear in stuff until they drop dead. But that’s different. Beauty comes with its own gifts and traps, rewards and curses.

1964’s Umbrellas of Cherbourg was an international smash-hit and it made Deneuve a star.

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Before that though, before she knew she would be world-famous (not that that matters, it’s just interesting context), she went to London to film Repulsion, directed by Roman Polanski. The film is Polanski at his best, and Deneuve at her very best. (It’s worth it to listen to their shared commentary track. Fascinating.) Her performance as the wordless manicurist strolling through swinging London like a somnambulist, as cracks open up (literally) at her feet, is a high watermark, not just for Deneuve, but for all actresses. I cannot tell you how many times I reference Repulsion in my head when I see another actress try (and usually fail) to create a sense of blankness, dissociation, depersonalization. They should watch Repulsion and LEARN. The performance is tremendously terrifying, and both Polanski and Deneuve have enormous compassion for this troubled young woman, soft-spoken to the point of whispering, who “zones out” in the middle of the day, in the middle of giving a manicure, who begins to see the world as threatening, with leering men on every corner. At night, harrowing fantasies of sexual assault keep her company. She puts on lipstick to get ready for them.

The performance is a tour de force.

Happy birthday, Catherine Deneuve.

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“I hope I’ll die on stage at the age at 105, playing Peter Pan.” — Joan Fontaine

A re-post of the tribute I wrote about Joan Fontaine when she died in December of 2013. She almost made it to her goal. She was 96 years old.

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It’s her birthday today.

While filming “The Women”, in 1939, Joan Fontaine, who played “the sheep” Peggy, was surrounded by powerhouse scene-stealers with far more acting experience and ambition to dominate than she had, Grande Dames like Norma Shearer and Joan Crawford and Rosalind Russell. Fontaine felt out-matched, and although she had done quite a few films at that point, they were not films where she had to really rise to the occasion. So she spoke to director George Cukor about acting technique, and the proper gestures and vocal intonations she should be going for. In answer to Fontaine’s nervous queries about acting, Cukor cut through with what Fontaine describes in her memoir as the best acting advice she had ever been given: “Think and feel and the rest will take care of itself.”

This advice only works with those who already have a gift for the sometimes-silly business of playing Make Believe. And Joan Fontaine had a gift. She took to Cukor’s words hungrily, eagerly, it would be her “way in”, it would be the thing she could remember when the going got tough (and it often got tough). Think and feel, and the rest will take care of itself. Her gift for acting was in that realm, in her ability to think and feel in such a palpable way that her anxiety and love and desire and calculations and sometimes outright misery vibrate off the screen like white noise, or an ongoing supersonic wave of emotion. There are times when the emotions are so strong that the effect is nearly unbearable. You worry about her characters. They seem too fragile, too susceptible. They are prey. They have signs on them saying, “Take advantage of me.” When her most famous characters fall in love, it is more like joining a cult than anything else.

Joan Fontaine had a way of looking up at her male co-stars, from Laurence Olivier to Cary Grant to Robert Ryan, with an anxious hopeful expression, uncertain, overlaid with kind sympathy, a desire to understand her man, to be there for him, to not let him down by doubting him. And yet the doubts come, first in a trickle, then in a flood. It is her own doubts that drive her mad, time and time again. Should she trust her own impressions? Should she follow her gut that something is wrong with this picture? Cannot she be happy again, satisfied with her man who so swept her away in the beginning stages? There is guilt in Joan Fontaine’s characters, guilt at her own doubt and disloyalty. It’s painful to see someone so gentle, so trusting, succumb to the dark underworld of anxiety, neuroticism, and guilt. She always seems to deserve better.

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Those who trust too easily, those who turn off their critical thinking skills in order to submit to domestic happiness, are bound to pay, especially in the hothouse world of the films of the 1940s, with directors like Alfred Hitchcock at the helm.

Joan Fontaine was put through her paces to get the role of Mrs. de Winter in “Rebecca”. And, by all accounts, her trials had just begun. She submitted to nearly six months of grueling screen tests. While it was clear she had the beautiful face and the gentle manner required for the first act, it was not altogether clear that she had the “chops” to make it through the second and the third act. Going in, Fontaine knew that she was not first choice for the role, despite powerful lobbying by producer David O. Selznick, who had pushed her to the head of the pack for consideration (over the likes of Anne Baxter and Margaret Sullavan). Fontaine had played small parts in a number of movies at that point, as well as appearing in George Stevens’ gigantic hit “Gunga Din” and the aforementioned “The Women”, but nothing she had done could have prepared her for the rigors of playing that role under those stressful circumstances. Laurence Olivier was not happy with her casting and did not hide his opinion; he had wanted his wife Vivien Leigh to play the role (who was currently becoming the biggest star in the world, following her performance in “Gone With the Wind”, whose co-star, of course, was Fontaine’s sister Olivia de Havilland, who would be nominated for an Oscar for her performance as Melanie in the same film). The British cast members in “Rebecca” formed a clique, and Fontaine felt shunned. Hitchcock made disparaging comments about Fontaine’s brand-new husband, Brian Aherne, leaving her feeling insecure, and she had no confidence that she actually had what it took to play the role properly.

In an unsent letter to Hitchcock, dated September 19, 1939, David O. Selznick wrote:

“I am aware that it takes time to get the performance out of Joan Fontaine, but every picture I have ever worked on had some such difficulty, and you are fortunate in having a completely competent cast of highly expert actors … Miss Fontaine … requires work – but so has every other girl who has been aimed at stardom and who requires an enormous amount of work in her first big opportunity.”

Acting in that atmosphere, where one is aware that people have both high expectations and low opinions of your ability, had to be a nightmare. But the performance is a revelation, and it made Joan Fontaine a star. From the first moment you see her, encountering Laurence Olivier standing on the edge of a cliff, you see what would be the trademarks of Fontaine’s entire career. She calls out to him to stop him from jumping (we hear her voice offscreen), and he whirls around to look at her. She stands there, in a simple sweater and skirt, flats, looking at him with both concern and alarm. He barks a retort back at her, and she cringes backward at his tone, but there is still that kindness in her eyes, eyebrows lifted in empathy. But she obeys him, and walks off down the path away from him. It’s all there, the entire performance, in that first moment. Hitchcock had to have seen it. Selznick had sensed it.

During filming, Selznick fired off one of his many memos to Hitchcock, and had this to say about Hitchcock’s handling of Fontaine:

“I think that Joan has been handled with great restraint, but I think we’ve got to be careful not to lose what little variety there is in the role by underplaying her in her emotional moments – whether these be the emotional moments of a young girl, or the emotional moments of the more mature woman, as particularly at the end of the ‘confession’ scene. From this point on to the end I’d like to urge that you be a little more Yiddish Art Theater in these moments, a little less English Repertory Theater, which will make the restraint of the rest of the performance much more effective, in my opinion, and will not make it seem as though Joan is simply not capable of the big moments.”

That was the fear: that Fontaine was “not capable of the big moments”. That was what all of those screen tests had been about. Could she swing for the fences? Could she go where the role needed her to go?

Knowing all of this background only adds to the feeling of awe at what Fontaine was able to accomplish. Perhaps it was a matter of the insecurity of the filming process bleeding into the performance. Fontaine felt that people were not pleased with her. And so she was trying to please everyone. Her role, Mrs. de Winter, requires her to step into a mystery-laden situation with her new husband, where nobody is telling her the whole truth, and where she has to live up to impossible expectations. She senses this, she senses the presence of a mysterious Third in their marriage, and proceeds to try to be the most pleasing wife who has ever been born. She breathlessly plays that part (Fontaine, at her best, always seemed just slightly out of breath), and her eagerness to please is heartbreaking. You want her to stand up to those who doubt her, are cruel to her, make her feel bad about herself. But with Fontaine’s best roles, that will always take some time. When she finally does begin to show some agency, it comes with a tsunami of anxiety and guilt that make you fear for her sanity.

Fontaine was nominated for an Oscar for her performance in “Rebecca” (she would lose to Ginger Rogers), but she won the following year for her role as Lina, another trusting wife overcome by horrible doubts, in “Suspicion”, directed again by Alfred Hitchcock, and co-starring Cary Grant, in his first outing with Hitchcock. Grant’s performance as Johnny, the fun-loving and yet ultimately suspicious husband (is he a user? Is he going to kill his wife?), was a huge break in style and genre for the man who had become a star with screwball comedies. Fontaine’s role as “Lina” built on what had been set up in “Rebecca”. Lina is swept away by the glamorous smooth-talking guy in the slick suits, and the film is explicit in the sexual hold he has over her. Whatever is going on between them after the coy fade-outs is hot and powerful, a strong bond and yet dangerous. Again, as in “Rebecca”, we get the sense that in marrying this particular man, Joan Fontaine’s character is joining a cult rather than a duo of domestic bliss. In order to survive her own marriage, she must turn off her critical thinking skills. All evidence points to Johnny being up to no good, and Lina is driven (literally) to madness in trying to suppress her doubts.

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But the sex they’re having acts as a narcotic, blissing her out. Is Johnny doing that on purpose? Silencing her with sex? Or isn’t it just a natural thing, for a man to love his wife in that way? Hitchcock keeps us out of balance for the majority of the film. Grant is seen as totally appealing and also super suspicious (the famous shot of him ascending the staircase holding the glowing glass of milk – they put a lightbulb into the glass to get the effect – is one of Hitchcock’s many masterpieces).

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The main fight in the film is against herself. She knows what she sees and perceives, and yet she feels guilty at seeing it. Such an inner division would drive anyone mad.

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Fontaine won the Best Actress Oscar for her role in “Suspicion” (and her sister had also been nominated in the same category for “Hold Back the Dawn”). Maybe that’s where their famous feud began, with Joan winning an Oscar before her sister. Who knows. There’s quite a bit of evidence that the feud was, in large part, made up by the press. Both sisters would go on to more successes, although Fontaine’s career was more uneven than her sisters. She had other successes, beautiful performances in “Letter From an Unknown Woman” and “Born to Be Bad”, among others. She kept working, on the stage and on television, although she would always be associated with her roles in “Rebecca” and “Suspicion”, a one-two punch that has rarely been matched.

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Her way of looking up at the powerful men who held her in their sway, her eager and concerned expression, her hopeless swoon of love for them, the breath catching high in her throat, is not just a “signature”. It’s not schtick. It was an organic understanding that the most important thing in cinema, the thing you must have if you are going to have anything, is the ability to, in the words of Cukor, think and feel and the rest will take care of itself.

 
 
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“If I could make every movie with Richard Linklater, I would.” — Glen Powell

It’s his birthday today. I love it when someone hard-working and deserving becomes the new It-Boy. Correction: Glen Powell isn’t an It-BOY. He is an It-MAN. I love how he seems to be really enjoying his moment, humorous about it, ambitious, embracing “old-fashioned” genres like rom-coms and action movies, I love his sense of humor and friendliness. I love that his dog Brisket has an Instagram account. Unfortunately, I hadn’t seen Twisters yet when I wrote about him – at length – on my Substack. Twisters was a blast. I took my niece Lucy and it was so much fun.
 
 
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“My thoughts bustle along like a Surinam toad, with little toads sprouting out of back, side, and belly, vegetating while it crawls.” — Samuel Taylor Coleridge

He looked at his own Soul
with a telescope. What seemed
all irregular, he saw and
shewed to be beautiful
Constellations: and he added
to the Consciousness hidden
worlds within worlds.

–Samuel Taylor Coleridge, Notebooks

It’s his birthday today.

I’ll start with a personal anecdote because Coleridge entered my life early.

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“If my life wasn’t funny it would just be true, and that is unacceptable.” — Carrie Fisher

It’s her birthday today. I miss her.

Here is the tribute I wrote to Fisher when she died, focusing primarily on her writing. I also reviewed the documentary, Bright Lights: Starring Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds.
 
 
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“A man innocently dabbles in words and rhymes, and finds that it is his life.” — Patrick Kavanagh

Patrick Kavanagh, titanically angry Irish poet, was born on this day in 1904. He came of age during the Celtic Renaissance and he thought it was all a bunch of bullshit. That is not a direct quote. He was much more profane about it. Kavanagh is the man who wrote “On Raglan Road.” I loved too much and by such and such is happiness thrown away.

On Raglan Road
On Raglan Road on an autumn day I met her first and knew
That her dark hair would weave a snare that I might one day rue;
I saw the danger, yet I walked along the enchanted way,
And I said, let grief be a fallen leaf at the dawning of the day.

On Grafton Street in November we tripped lightly along the ledge
Of the deep ravine where can be seen the worth of passion’s pledge,
The Queen of Hearts still making tarts and I not making hay –
O I loved too much and by such and such is happiness thrown away.

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“As I go back and listen, the other girls weren’t singing quite like I was.” — Wanda Jackson

It’s her birthday today.

She was a pioneer. One of the few women in that original “class”. Rockabilly was a boys’ game. She changed that game. She looked around in 1954/55, and thought, “Hey. All these songs are written by boys. Dear me. What should I do? Oh, I know. Write songs from a girl’s POV.”

She wore fringed dresses, which shimmered in the light when she moved. She was a teenager when she started out, and her mother would travel with her to shows as a chaperone. Her mom made those dresses. I saw one on display at Graceland!

Wanda credits Elvis with encouraging her to “try out” the new style of music. Wanda always assumed she’d be a country singer. He pushed her to try out new rhythms. And here we are today. She’s (finally) in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. She talks about him during every show.

“Elvis had been talking to me about trying to sing this new rock and roll or rockabilly – I don’t think we even had a name for it yet – and I didn’t think I could, I told him No, I’m just a country singer. But it seemed like he knew something I didn’t know. He said, ‘You can do this. I know you can. And you need to.'”

When she told that story the first time I saw her play, she said, “And now I’m in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. So I always pay tribute to Elvis every show.”

She also covers his songs. On the Jack White album, she covered a lesser-known but gorgeous Elvis song, “Like a Baby”. In 2006, she came out with an album called I Remember Elvis, and it was all covers. Wanda has been married for over half a century, but she is not afraid to Kiss and Tell.

Here she is in action, 1958. I love the humor of her “girlish” introduction: “This is one of the most beautiful love songs ever written.” And then …

Wanda Jackson is still alive. She’s in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. She is revered by people like Bruce Springsteen, Joan Jett, Adele … When Adele first hit it big and went on tour, she had Wanda Jackson open for her. In 2011, Jack White – after his huge success producing Loretta Lynn’s Van Lear Rose, moved on to another Female Legend, and produced an album with Wanda, titled, perfectly, The Party Ain’t Over. The Party Ain’t Over gave Jackson her first Billboard Top 100 hit in her career. (Here’s an article about a show Jack White and Jackson did in Los Angeles – I mainly link to it because of the clips included of the two of them performing together.)

I love Jack and Wanda performing “Heartbreak Hotel” at a show in Williamsburg. This clip disappears from YouTube periodically and then someone re-uploads it. So watch it while you have the chance. I LOVE Jack White and I LOVE how he loves her, and supports her up there. The band sounds phenomenal.

Here the two are on Letterman!

The support/promotion/cheerleading of people like Jack White and Adele have brought her to younger generations who have embraced her. Her shows are always all ages, teenagers to Boomers. This fills my bitter heart with happiness!

When Jim Jarmusch chose to open Only Lovers Life Alive with this Wanda Jackson needle drop, I swooned. This is one of her best.

I’ve seen Wanda Jackson play twice – and I’m so glad I did, because I believe she’s retired now. She is in her 80s after all. So I got to see her right at the end. The first time I saw her was at Maxwell’s in Hoboken, a tiny little venue, where she was right there among us.

When I saw Wanda Jackson at Maxwell’s, she spoke very warmly of Amy Winehouse, and with some sadness too: “I had hoped very much to meet her.” Here she is performing “You Know I’m No Good.”

This was a song Jack White had to push Wanda to do. She thought it wasn’t age-appropriate. There were some battles like this along the way which Wanda won, but in this one she “lost” and we are lucky she did. It’s fascinating listening to her sing that phenomenal song, connecting up the continuum between herself and someone like Winehouse.

I was a wreck at the Maxwell’s show. A storied club, yes, but tiny, with no backstage. After her set, she stood off to the side, behind a tiny curtain, as we applauded and urged her to come on for an encore. But the thing was: we could still see her, she was right THERE. Waiting until the right moment when she could take the four steps to center stage and sing a couple more. It was so PURE, so RAW.

It made me think of her history: starting out at church picnics and county fairs, local dances, where there were no bells, whistles. No lights dimmed for you. You had to get up on the stage and command attention with your voice, persona, your performance. You had no outside help. It was all on YOU, to get the audience’s attention and to KEEP the audience’s attention.

And so here she was, 60, 70 years later, huddled on the corner of a stage, with a crowd – maybe 200 of us – ages 20 to 70 – screaming her name, until she gracefully emerged again, as THOUGH she had been hidden from view, to take us on out with 3 or 4 more songs.

Such a PRO.

The second time I saw Wanda was at some huge hall in New Jersey, can’t remember where. It was a benefit event, organized by a good friend of mine. I worked the door with him. Joan Jett walked in. There were some pretty overwhelming moments at that show – the main one being standing next to Joan Jett during the show, and at one point – as she does every show – Wanda played Hank Williams’ “I Saw the Light”. Everyone sang along. Including Joan Jett. So it was like the entire history of 20th century popular music was there in that room. It was wild.

Here’s a picture from that night.

In 2019, my nephew and I went to go see the “Play It Loud” exhibit at the Metropolitan Museum, an outstanding show filled with famous guitars – famous guitars made famous by the famous geniuses who played them. (There were other instruments, too – Jerry Lee Lewis’ piano, for example – but it was mainly about guitars). Everyone’s was there. Chuck Berry’s hung at the entrance. Elvis. Bo Diddley. Eddie van Halen. Buddy Holly. Muddy Waters. Prince. And Wanda’s. Wanda’s guitar was behind glass right next to Buddy Holly’s.

I was so happy to see that she was right where she belonged. In the Pantheon.

 
 
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Today, the Sheila Variations turns 22. wtf.

The above pic of me – taken by Michael – graced the top of my original blog, when I set it up 22 years ago today. I never should have put my picture up on my site – it led to a lot of creeps! – but the picture was taken on a perfect day, by the boyfriend – and looking at it makes me remember things I want to still feel and experience. I look at the picture and think: “…. that wasn’t a pose. That was real. That was how I actually felt in that moment.” It kind of amazes me. I don’t think I would ever cavort across a field and blow kisses at a camera now but … it’s good to know I DID do that once. I think that must have been on my mind when I stuck her up there in the banner originally. I could have no way of knowing I’d still be here literally decades later. And SHE has been replaced by ELVIS, which is only good and right.

The very first post on this here blog is hilariously un-ceremonious. I don’t even introduce myself! I just launch into a story about a day spent with Allison. On that day, Allison and I went to a nearby speakeasy (or: bar. It had been a speakeasy back in the day. It had a secret entrance, no sign.) We sat there, had some Bloody Marys, and accidentally set our newspaper on fire, while surrounded by the mostly firemen clientele, who … saw the fire, and basically were like, “Meh, not our problem.” I wrote that piece huddled over my laptop in Allison’s apartment, the apartment I helped her move into, the apartment that is my home away from home, and … sitting there on October 18, 2002, I decided to finally just do what I had been wanting to do for about 6 to 8 months: set up a blog.

I discovered “blogs” a month or so after September 11th. A little over a year later, I set up my own blog in the free Blogspot. There was no overall plan. I didn’t want to cover a certain subject. I started with a diary entry, followed it up with a quote from George Orwell, followed by a post about being a fan of Tori Amos and Eminem. In my third post I blabber about Eminem because 8 Mile was coming out and I was, and I quote, “fragmenting and dissolving” with excitement. lol And here we are, so many years later… which proves the point of the original post. I am nothing if not consistent. And loyal. Coincidence that I started the blog the day after his birthday? Well, yes, it was a coincidence.

Blogspot was so simple anyone could do it, part of the reason blogging became so popular. When I moved over to WordPress, I lost a lot of the Blogspot posts, including the very first post. Some years later, can’t remember when, I migrated everything over to my domain name and lost mostly all of my pictures, the majority of the comments, and etc. I didn’t even remember what the first post was. Recently, though, Allison found – somewhere on a hard drive – a Word doc, dated October 18, 2002, with the text of my first blog post. WHAT A FIND. I assume I was shy of typing it directly onto Blogspot, and started on Word. I couldn’t believe it. A relic! An ancient rune! I re-posted it as Blog Entry #1.

Here’s the story of why I started the blog. As per the usual, it’s not a one-sentence explanation, like “I wanted to create a brand”, “I wanted to hustle for writing work,” or even “I would like to create a platform where I can pontificate about This One Single Subject.” It’s a long story. It usually is in my neck of the woods. Trigger warnings for the following subjects: mass murder, self-harm, suicide, a violent altercation in a bar bathroom, a sexual assault, hurricane damage, political upheaval, and honesty about the flawed nature of human beings, including and mostly my own. You got all that? Take care of your own boundaries. I know it’s sometimes tiresome to hear people describe their various nervous breakdowns. I get it. I feel the same way. But it’s part of my story and as I keep saying over and over again, you have to write for yourself, ultimately. It’s amazing if you have readers as well, but at the end of the day you have to write what you want to write. That’s what I’ve always tried to do here.

2001: One reason why I started The Sheila Variations
I guess in a way 9/11 was why I started the blog, even though there was over a year’s separation between the catastrophe and the blog set-up. 9/11 launched me into an altered state that would last about two straight years. This was the case for many New Yorkers. I saw the fireball with my own eyes and I watched the second plane hit and I also watched the buildings collapse, the air filled with screams. When the Air Force jets arrived, maybe an hour later, I ran screaming across the park and hid under a bench, along with 100s of others clambering for cover. We didn’t know the jets were “ours”. On that morning, anything seemed possible. There were the wild weeks following. Mourning. Wild-eyed collective grief. Making out with a guy I met 10 minutes before. There was a lot of that. I bet a lot of un-planned babies were born 9 months later. I never really processed what I would now call the trauma of all of this, mainly because – who the fuck cares about feelings, there are bigger issues at stake – but whatever, I was scarred permanently. I would never be the same again. I can say that now, with the distance of time. Watching almost 3,000 people die at the same time has a way of shifting around your molecular structure.

2000 and 2001: Another reason I started the blog: Two encounters
But let’s rewind to the November of the year before, 2000, during the fabled “recount” – which, of course, is always connected in my mind to 9/11 – since the attack was less than a year later – so it was in November 2000 when I fell in love at first sight. Nothing would happen after that night, but it changed me. It didn’t change me like 9/11 changed me, of course, but on a personal level, things were never really the same after that. Well, you can read the piece to see how it all shook out. I can’t explain why that encounter had such an impact, but it was bad. He has two more cameos, so don’t get comfortable.

Then – almost a year later – on September 9, 2001 – I ran into him again. The date is eerie. My sister and I convened at an East Village watering hole and he was freakin’ there, sitting at the bar. Thus ensued a hilarious drunken night. The chemistry was still there, and it was literally two “nights before” the world as we knew it ended.

This is how my pattern-seeking brain works: The first time he and I met, our country was in the middle of a crisis – the hanging-chad Florida recount – and the second time we met was two days before the biggest attack on American soil in our Gen-X lifetimes, and whatever the numbers a world-tottering event. If I get woo-woo about it, our relationship looks like a sort of geopolitical reflecting pool

2002: The final reason: The third encounter
In April of 2002, I saw him AGAIN. I am sure you all are sick of this. I’m sick of it myself but I have to tell it like it is, and unfortunately, he is tied up in the creation of my blog. In April of 2002, I didn’t “run into him” the way I did on September 9, 2001, but … he invited me to his birthday party, and – like an idiot – I went. And let’s be honest: I wreaked havoc. I went there to wreak havoc and fuck him up and I succeeded, but I fucked MYSELF up in the process. Just a warning in re: the above, there is a moment of – I suppose – what you would call violence – but the violence to me “felt like a kiss” – as the song says, which I realize is fucked up, but again, it’s the truth. If we had hooked up, the mere ACT might have resulted in mutual spontaneous combustion. Metallica’s “Enter Sandman” blasted through the air, thereby always and forever associating itself with the bathroom in the aptly-named Bellevue Bar. A heavy sound for heavy days. I can now see this whole mess had nothing whatsoever to do with him. I barely KNEW the guy! In looking back on it, now all I can see is my mental illness, which I didn’t even know I had at the time (and didn’t know I had when I wrote the piece. I would write it very differently now), in the driver’s seat. The illness channeled into the state of emergency following 9/11 … but by April 2002, as the hyper-vigilance receded, the illness needed – desperately – to express itself. And so it did.

The summer of 2002 was frightening. I flat-lined emotionally. It was “wakeful anguish”, Keats’ brilliant description of “melancholy”, so piercing I checked out. I even heard whispering voices urging me to … One night, wandering around Hoboken, stricken, I looked up at the sky and it was a bright pink with some other colors, and something about the overlap of two colors made it look like the fabric of the sky was torn. It looked like there was a rip in the sky. I still remember the color of that pink sky. In my mental state in that moment, I was the only person aware that an apocalypse was occurring up there. A cosmic event was in progress. I went into a nearby church and prayed for humanity to be saved. I was a “cutter” since high school (even though there wasn’t a name for it back then). I weaned myself from the habit, and didn’t do it all during my time in Chicago (and never do it now), but it came back the summer of 2002. Even worse: I was in therapy this whole time. I can see now that I was in imminent danger and I should have been in the hospital not wandering around seeing the sky ripped open and pestered by whispering sinister voices. Instead, my lazy bitch therapist finally referred me to a psychiatrist (her energy was “This is above my paygrade”, not exactly comforting). I had to chase down the psychiatrist since it was August and you know how psychiatrists vanish in August. To “chase her down” when I was in a state of emotional emergency was too much to ask. The psychiatrist bitch met with me for 20 minutes and put me on an anti-depressant, which I now know is extremely dangerous for someone with my diagnosis. (The psychiatrist – if she had taken any time with me, which she didn’t – might have clocked what was really going on, and diagnosed me THEN, instead of me having to suffer for another DECADE – almost exactly) The anti-depressant kicked in in about 4 days: the clouds raced out of the sky, I shivered with energy and exhilaration, and at one point I remember SKIPPING around the corner of 21st Street onto 8th Avenue. Literally. Skipping. I now understand these are all warning signs. I’m lucky I’m alive. Nobody clocked it, though, because the lazy bitch psychiatrist just filled my prescription and never checked in with me again. I quit therapy because fuck her. By the fall of 2002 I leveled out and I felt more like myself. I sat with Allison in a speakeasy, I set a newspaper on fire, and I started a blog.

To sum up
I started this blog because of a lethal mixture of loneliness, mental illness, heavy metal, and terrorism.

Not quite the same thing as saying “I’m going to start a book/cooking/film blog.” No shade on those people, I’m just saying it wasn’t that way for me.

Oh my God, people are actually reading me
At first I didn’t have comments and I was mainly writing for people I knew. In 2003, I think, I upgraded to WordPress, and allowed comments. Around the same time, a couple of big-wigs linked to me, and I was voted Best of the Web (for that week, I guess) by The Wall Street Journal. This brought a LOT of people to my site, and overnight my comments section started exploding. This was before social media. Social media dispersed huge crowds like this. There were days when I legit could not keep up with my own comments section, and there was a lot of fractiousness in there, and I just did not – I REFUSED – to have a comments section where people were mean to each other. I ran a tight ship. I blocked people constantly. I gained a couple of creepy stalkers, one of whom I still hear from on occasion to this day, even though I have blocked him in every area possible. When idiots say, “Just ignore people like that” I want to say – and I DO say – “I never responded to this douchebag, beyond our initial interaction. I never ever respond, I don’t even read his emails, I delete them.” If that’s not ignoring then I don’t know what is. So don’t give advice on things you don’t understand. It’s stupid advice. And just so we’re clear: 99.99% of the people who’ve gotten obsessed and resorted to stalking and harassment have been men. This is expected. But the scariest blog-stalker I ever had was a woman. I reported her to the police. Just to have a paper trail in case something happened.

I don’t trust nobody.

Slow discovery of subject matter and expression, through doing whatever the hell I wanted, and encouraging a wide-ranging non-ideologically-rigid readership
Things developed. Series developed. Categories solidified. I loved writing about the Founding Fathers (particularly John Adams and Alexander Hamilton – YEARS before Lin Manuel Miranda came along, thankyouverymuch). James Joyce was – and remains – a regular topic of discussion. Believe it or not “Stalin” used to have his own category until I finally demoted him to just a tag. Still: I have written as much about him – and Russia, and the Russian revolution – as I have about Cary Grant. Along with this: I still write a lot about thought control, the control of language, the ironing-out of differences with an iron fist, all of the things that help keep me vigilant against those tendencies in our current era, in every era. Propaganda requires anti-propaganda vigilance. We are all susceptible. I wasn’t going to write these things in my journal. It’s stuff I need to express. In a way, the pieces on thought control, Orwell, Stalin, are as personal as any diary entry. Anything you want to know about me politically is there.

The whole Birthday Calendar thing is a relatively recent phenomenon, although I always liked to write posts “for” people’s birthdays. I liked the diversity: You’d have a post about Christopher Marlowe next to a post about Jane Russell or Dane Cook. Don’t try to pin me down. But around 2017 or so -? – the calendar format began to coalesce for real. I had written so much about so many people, the archive was so massive, I decided to resurrect these pieces on the subject’s birthday. We now know how THAT turned out. The birthday posts have basically BECOME the blog. I stopped writing about my daily life, for the most part, and I stopped putting pressure on myself to post every day. I never ever considered giving up the blog. The Birthday Posts means this site is continuously updated, sometimes with posts I’ve written 10, 12 years ago. Very few are recent, although some are. Inadvertently, this whole birthday post thing reflects one of the main reasons I do what I do: Celebrate. Pay tribute. I would rather talk about what I love than argue with people whether what I love is worth talking about or not. The birthday posts turned my blog into one big tribute, and I really like that.

A totally unexpected result of The Sheila Variations
There are people I have “met” through the comments section here who have become, at this point, lifelong friends. I’ve even met many in person. Lisa – whom I finally met during my first trip to Memphis. Emily – whom I finally met in 2005, when she visited New York, and I took her to the same speakeasy where I set the newspaper on fire. I also met up with Emily in Los Angeles, and we are still in touch. Love Emily. Other people I met whom I am still friends with: Regina, Carrie and Anthony, Bill, Sean, Therese, Anne, Sarah, Cate (RTG), Tracey, Tommy, De, Kelly S., and etc. I haven’t met some of them offline but we are friends. And let’s not forget STEVIE, whom I first met in 2007, when we traveled to Taos to meet Dean Stockwell. As you do. Stevie, who ALWAYS remembers my blog anniversary. These people are regular presences in my life – in an online way – and we are all “friends” on social media, and this can all be attributed to my site. (They all blogged too.) Then there are the regulars, like Todd and Melissa and mutecypher and DBW and a couple others, who have shown up on occasion for literally 20 years to see what I’m babbling about and leave thoughtful fun comments, and I appreciate them all.

And then there were the annoyances. You knew I had to address them. I don’t experience them so much anymore because apparently all the people who are like that have congregated on Twitter. The people who “what about”-ed me to death. The people who were homophobic, if you can believe it. Like, get the fuck off my site. I like the boys myself but my whole world and friend group is gay people and has been so since high school. I don’t know who you THINK you’re reading but if someone is invited into my home, and they proceed to say homophobic shit, then I show them the door. Then there were those from the right and the left who brought politics into everything – and this turns a comments section into a war zone. The other drags are people who scold you for liking someone even though that someone doesn’t have a blemish-free morally-correct life record. I’m not a contrarian so much as I resist consensus like it’s a full-time job and I’m interested in film – and books – and all of it – because it’s art, man. Only admiring people whom you deem have “correct” ideas or morally pure behavior … I guess you’ve never read Orwell. Or Tale of Two Cities. I guess you think Madame Defarge is a positive role model? (And look at what happened to HER.) I fear moral purity like it’s a fucking plague, because it IS – and always has been – a fucking plague. And so: people “come after you” because of your incorrect artistic opinions. This can lead to self-censorship: I better not share this because it won’t “play on Twitter”. If you are a writer and this thought comes into your head, you must kill it with fire in the public square. If you really want to write, you just can’t care. It’s a discipline: not caring.

All of this is to say: I moderate comments. I made the choice early on to do so and I still do it. Un-moderated comments sections descend into the ninth circle within two exchanges. It’s time-consuming but I protect the nice people who show up here against the rude ones. I disagree with plenty of people who show up here! But if your tone grants the other person humanity – and their right to hold a different opinion – then we’re good.

Transforming the blog into something elsee
In around 2005-2006 I started writing mostly about film – or, more accurately – actors. I had lots to say about actors, and … those pieces sometimes make me cringe now, it was early on, but it was part of me spreading my wings, testing out the waters. The blog became a place to document my obsessions. Weeks devoted to Cary Grant or Bogart. Weeks to Howard Hawks. MONTHS to Dean Stockwell, plus crashing a party in Taos and meeting him. And I started getting attention from another crowd, way better than the political animals who descended on me post Wall Street Journal … I started being looped into the later-adopters of blogging, the film bloggers, particularly the film bloggers in New York City. These people mostly started blogs in 2005-2006. Now these people have become regular and treasured friends: Farran, Keith, Dan, Matt Seitz, Jill, Imogen, Kim, Steven Boone, Simon, Dana, Charlie, Stephanie Z. All of them are still writing about film – some have been nominated for Pulitzers, all of them are amazing and my whole life changed. I started getting actual gigs writing about film – my first paid gig in 2010 – and … here we are today. Where I get a hand-written note from Martin Scorsese thanking me for my “insight” into Raging Bull. Where my first book is coming out at the end of this month, and I got the assignment because Guillermo del Toro requested me to write it. I don’t even know how it all happened. I certainly didn’t HUSTLE for it.

Then in 2013, on the same day I got my monster mental health diagnosis – the same day – Roger Ebert emailed me, asking me to write for him. And then everything REALLY changed.

20 Years of Life History
My life has gone through so many different changes over the course of the blog. It starts when Cashel was a 5 year old in Brooklyn and I saw him almost every weekend. He is now a musician and an actor, a college graduate, living in New York. WTF. My brother moving to Los Angeles. My father. The death of my friend Brett. Multiple world events. Multiple catastrophic storms. Katrina. Irene. Sandy. The economy crash. Losing my long-time job. My very first published piece, which had nothing to do with film, in the Irish Letters issue of The Sewanee Review, the oldest literary journal in the country. My time on Block Island, re-grouping. My writing career starting in 2010. A life-changer. Too late for my father to see though. A couple of really damaging romances, particularly in 2009 and in 2012, identical “romances” with identical endings. They both also lasted three months to the day and ended very very badly. Two major breakdowns, one in 2009 and 2012. Shit got a little eerie on here. I kept the posts up including The Triangle, which I can’t even read now it’s so scary, but I figure … I was bearing witness to my own experience, and … it should stay up. This blog saw the birth of my script July and Half of August, which traveled from New York to Los Angeles to Chicago and back to New York. It led to meetings with Broadway producers, bites from gigantic New York agents, who wined and dined me, and finally, turning a scene of it into a short film, which traveled from New York to Albuquerque to Champaign-Urbana and – just recently – in Bushwick. I don’t even know how many day jobs I’ve had since I started up this site. I work in New York’s media world, and over these years I had jobs at NBC, Disney, Oxygen, Martha Stewart, The New York Times, a crazed stint at The Today Show … I can’t even count. Those jobs dried up after the crash. I managed to get by because basically I know everyone in New York media. “Hi. Just lost a job. I need another one. You got anything?” They always did. I moved five times. Am I missing one? Yes, I am missing one. The last one. When I started up this blog, I had a longtime roommate. In 2020 I interviewed her about her methods for teaching acting! Lifelong friends. In 2008 I got Hope. In 2012, I lost Hope for three hair-raising days after half my apartment building burned down. Hope died in 2020. Multiple trips to Ireland, one of which resulted in one of my favorite pieces I ever wrote. A trip to Croatia. Multiple trips to Memphis. Giving a talk on Elvis in Memphis, introduced by Robert Gordon. !!! My dear brother-in-law’s tragic death in 2020. When I started the blog, Cashel was my only nephew. Now I have 7 more nieces and nephews. Can’t imagine my life without all of them. Getting diagnosed in 2013, finally, after the crackup in 2012 that could have been my last. Renewal and actual mental well-being, which I have never had, not since I was a small child. The sexual assault after the weird date-that-wasn’t-a-date (I’m sorry, it was a date), which led to my first crack-up post-diagnosis. It was a bad one. I tried not to let the experience of that night change me, but I failed. I can see now the effects were long-lasting. Like, that night still feels like it happened last year. I never get over anything. Multiple upheavals in Iran, which I followed closely. 2003. 2009. Panahi. Now. Women. Life. Freedom. Watching an insurrection. A pandemic. An Elvis 68-comeback-special mask. We make it through however we can.

That’s a lot of life, and that’s just scratching the surface of events.

I didn’t want to just talk about my own life on the blog, because I sensed – correctly – that even if I didn’t mean to, I would be creating a “persona” of some kind, and I didn’t want to have to live up to it. (I read many diary-type blogs, and I loved them. I just didn’t want to go that route. I didn’t want to “perform” my life.) I didn’t want a single-subject blog. I just wanted a place where I could speak in public. I did write personally, mostly old stories I always wanted to write, memories I wanted to capture – good memories a lot of the time – and it was also a way of working out what I thought and felt in print. I don’t do that so much anymore, although just recently I wrote this huge piece about something I’ve wanted to write about for years, mainly because I knew it was super important but I never could put my finger on why. Writing really helped, even though the piece went way beyond my initial idea. I sometimes get confused about what actually went on in my life, particularly when super strong romantic-ish feelings are involved, and writing really helps. Some of the story posts become regular staples, posts people look forward to every year, and one settled in so much to the collective consciousness of the commentariat – much larger at the time I wrote it – that this particular gentleman is still referred to as “Window-Boy” by old-timers.

This has continued to be the place where I can expand – at length – in a way I never could in a major publication – on the subjects that obsess me. Elvis started here, although just out of curiosity I did a search and found a post I have no memory of writing … it’s so strange, but 2005 Me somehow knew what she would unleash if she ever started in for real, although … I think even I was a little surprised by what has happened, and what writing about Elvis has brought to my life. Supernatural started here. If I was forced to choose the most regular readers, the smartest regular readers, the funniest regular readers, it would be the Supernatural crowd. My God, these people do not mess around. I consider some of them friends. Helena. Lyrie. Cassandra. Jessie (whom I actually met in person, a real treat).

All really pleasant byproduct of blogging regularly. I am one of the last holdouts. As is Kelly, who started blogging just before I did. I highly recommend you bookmarking his site.

When I crouched over my laptop in Allison’s apartment, coming out of a suicidal depression, still in a state of shock from September 11th, still reeling from my encounter with THAT MAN WHO INFILTRATED AND ALTERED MY EMOTIONAL DNA, and then “cured” by the irresponsible prescribing of antidepressants, I had no way of knowing what would happen and where it would go. I did not plan for all this to happen. I went into it with no goals whatsoever. I wanted to put my voice out in the world, even if it just meant posting excerpts from my book collection. I was so lonely and I was tired of writing in my JOURNAL. I felt like it was time to come out to play.

And so I did.

Happy birthday to you, Sheila Variations. You changed my whole entire world. I would even say you saved my life.


Getting ready to go to the 50th anniversary gala for the Film Society at Lincoln Center, to which I was invited, on the same day Film Comment featured my cover story on Joanna Hogg’s “The Souvenir”. Tilda Swinton, who was in “The Souvenir” along with her daughter, was at the gala, and the two posed with the magazine on the red carpet, holding it open to my article. Would any of this have happened if I didn’t start the blog? Honestly? No.

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